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writes:what can i do? My friends are always being mean n making me feel bad about my self like the make fun about my wieght what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, TheCollegeCupid  +, writes (16 November 2010):
Hello friend,
It seems you need help learning how to say "no". When you tell your friend to stop it, you must do it in a way that implies, "stop it, or else". It's kind of immature, but 9 out of 10 people are not willing to obey someone, unless they know that there will be painful consequences. If you don't believe me, I'm sure that when you say "stop it," they say, "what are you going to do? (you wuss!)". Tell them clearly and assertively, "If you don't stop it, I'm going to leave." 85% chance, they will stop. That's because people obey when there are consequences... No matter what the consequences are...If they don't stop LEAVE. You deserve more than staying around friends that don't respect you anyway.
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reader, EvieA +, writes (15 October 2008):
 If they do that then they are not your'e Friends.Ditch em and find some new ones!
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reader, gemstone  +, writes (15 October 2008):
They are just getting off on making you feel bad. I would ask them to stop in a gentle way and if they dont I would accept that they arent really my friends and move on :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): stop being friends with them, they're not really friends but rather friend-a-mies, people like that only treat you like that because they need someone to put down to make them sleves feel superior! you don't need that, just find new friends! you'll be better off nothing worse than spending your high school career miserable and self consicious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Honey, friends that tease you about your weight and make fun of you aren't friends at all. If you really want to hang on to them, tell them how you feel, even if you know they aren't going to react nicely. You need to stand up for yourself because you deserve alot better. Remember that you teach people how to treat you and you have taught these so called friends that they are allowed to make you feel bad about yourself. Be your own protector, be brave and get rid of them if you can't salvage your friendships with them.
You deserve caring friends who treat you with respect and laugh with you, not at you. Don't let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise.
Good Luck!
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reader, prof_orr +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Next time one of your "friends" makes a comment about your weight, just say, "Like most people I'm not perfect but I would rather be a little heavy than rude."
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