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writes:today my friend came over and started crying it took me 15 minutes to get her to tell me wats wrong...she told me that if she gets in trobule her dad will beat her mom and sometimes her..i'm soo scared for her i didnt know how to react when she started crying..how do i help or make her feel better..i'm the only one that knows Reply to this Question
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (25 April 2011):
 She is not thinking clearly. It is the same thing as not telling someone that your friend is going to commit suicide, because they won't be your friend anymore. A true friend will ALWAYS do what will be beneficial for the friend, even if it costs the friendship. Tell the authorities.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (30 March 2009):
 She needs help, and at the very least you can tell a counselor and keep it anonymous Tell them you do not want to be named. But I would talk to her about reporting it. Help give her confidence and courage to tell someone who can help her and her mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know what u guys are saying is right but i'm soo scared to tell her that i'm scared if i lose her or if she says stuff like i thought u were my friend..maybe i should forget she ever even told me this
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (27 March 2009):
You go straight to your school counselor and tell them what she told you. They will make a report to Child Protective Services, who will send a social worker to investigate.
You need to really talk to her about reporting this. I know she is scared, and she think that she will only get in more trouble with her dad, but if she tells a social worker that her dad beats her and her mom, they will remove her or him immediately.
She cannot wait. She must do it now. Things will only get worse. It is a great sign that she already told you. You can even offer to go with her to tell the counselor, since she sounds like she really needs a best friend right now.
Your school counselors are trained to handle these problems, and know all of the legal steps required to keep her safe. Please, urge her to report this abuse. Maybe if she steps up and social services gets involved, it will kick her mom into action. If her mom also opens up to authorities, her dad will be taken into custody for abuse of a minor.
Telling someone is the only way to keep her and her mom safe. Hiding it will only allow him to beat them more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): well my friend went through the same thing and she came 2 school with a black eye and a busted lip. you need to ask her if she wants u to tell someone. ask her 2 talk to her mom and leave her father. he deserves to go to jail. no man should beat on a woman. EVER! to make her feel better just hug her and tell her that u love her and let her know that as long as u are around that u wont let him touch her. hope i helped:D
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