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writes:My 17 year old boyfriend of a year is an Indian Sikh [im 15] which is not at all a problem, but when i first told my friends about him they were being, well,racist; just because he wears a Turban and is Indian. When I did tell them, their immature reaction made me quite upset and he was of course hurt by this.Why do they do it? How can i make them stop? Or is it simply pointless.
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reader, TasteofIndia  + ♥, writes (8 October 2007):
 I just want to let you know that you are a great person. Good for you, not letting yourself be swayed by your friends. Your friends sound a little ignorant and a little immature (no offense).
Judging people for what color their skin is and what they wear is what weak people do. You just stand by your man and I really think that you need to voice your feelings to your friends. They need to know that their judgments and comments are way out of line. They also need to know that every time they hate on your boyfriend, they hate on you and that you are REALLY hurt by their narrow mindsets.
If they continue, then they aren't really good friends are they? Give them a chance to change and if they don't - I think it's time to look for new friends.
Stay strong, sweetness. Your relationship sounds wonderful!
xxIndia
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reader, Miss C +, writes (8 October 2007):
 I know it won't be easy to hear but if they're racially abusive towards your boyfriend then they are NOT your friends and they are NOT the sort of people who deserve to have any friends at all. Your boyfriend must feel really hurt and it's not surprising but racists are a waste of space and don't deserve to be given the time of day. Don't let their opinions destroy your relationship with your boyfriend. They're the ones with the problems and are obviously really immature. Find people who deserve your friendship and actually care about your happiness.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):
 They are being immature and they are no friends of yours. Continue to stand by your man,and to HADES with what other people think.
And I give you a standing O by the way. It is very mature and very brave of you to stand up for people instead of sinking down the their piss poor level.
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