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weary-zone
writes:i have a problem with my friend she thinks that our group ignores her and we gather without telling her (we always tell her to hang out with us but then she don't come or answer our msgs or even our calls) so how can i fix this she thinks we don't want her with us but we do and we always call her but she don't call or text us . is that my fault ?
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reader, weary-zone +, writes (14 July 2008):
weary-zone is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys that was really nice of you . i guess i'll tell her that
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reader, cupidguy  +, writes (14 July 2008):
Hosting a party sounds like a good idea, but if she is experiencing low-self esteem, she would need serious help in getting through this event.
A long talk between you two, bringing up her non calling back doesn't help, that if she neglects everyone, then the human tendency is to also neglect over time. She has to be engaged if she wants to be a part of the group.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 why not ask her if she would be up for hosting a party in hers ? that way she's on neutral ground and cant back out! but you should also talk to her and tell her that its not fair for her to give out cos you guys do text her and ring her but she doesnt get back to you - how can she expect to be included when she wont include herself? she needs to grow up and cop on...if she's not going to get in touch with you guys then why should you be making all the effort?
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reader, Aly Jane + ♥, writes (14 July 2008):
 No, it's not your fault at all. In fact, you invite her, so it's up to her whether or not she wants to come. I'm not exactly sure why she thinks she's left out when she's the one not going.
Let her know that she's appreciated and that your group wants her to join in. Subtlety is not going to make her feel any better.
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