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writes:I'm a female and my very best friend is a female as well. She claims to have low self-esteem but honestly I don't see it. We work together and I have to say I am friends with other staff. The problem I'm having with my very best friend is that she sometimes can be what I would call possessive of me. For examples if another staff member is going to go to Starbucks for coffee and offers to get us a drink my very best friend will say "don't get Kim anything, I am making her coffee"! If me and another staff member are going to visit one of our residents in rehab my very best friend will say "well I thought you and I would do that"! If I tell another staff member about a health issue with me and my best friend finds out she will say "well I guess you have a new best friend"! If somebody say's they like a certain kind of wine my best friend will say "well Kim and I like Mango Strawberry, that's our favorite wine"! When we go to the dining room for lunch she will actually move her husbands food to another table setting so she can sit next to me. If I go out with other friends, she wants the details. Now she has asked me to go to her home (5 hours away) and spend Christmas with her husband and kids. We are not children, we are in our late 50's, this behavior seems odd to me. Maybe I am reading too much into it. What are your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2014): She sounds lonely to me. Kids and a husband are good company, but maybe she doesn't have any other female friends that she can talk to, so since you're there for her, she jumped on the chance of becoming your best friend.
Maybe try and talk to her about how you feel about her behavior? Otherwise, she will keep doing it and you might unintentionally push her away because you're annoyed with it.
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