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writes:Ive met this girl in college ive known for about a month now. We both are really good mates and like doing the same stuff. She is really hot and I am going out with her soon. I fancy her but dont know what to do. She has a bf but shes mentioned she is not sure whether she wants him anymore because he is messing her around. Obviously I need to give her some time with this but how should i tell her I like her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): I agree with penta, definitely make sure she knows you are here for her, and mayb as well that you are attracted to her and would never mess her around (hopefully thats true!) so that at least shes knows that you are there and that you are an option, but again you dont really want to be the rebound guy, especially as you are friend and that could end the friendship if it doesnt work. And being a woman, i know that women need time sometimes and if you push her to be with you or to end her relationship, then she will run away from you!
Good luck!!
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reader, penta  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 This one is hard. You don't want to be the rebound guy, but you don't want to be stuck in the "friend zone" either. Whatever you do, don't do anything with her until she's clear of the bf. If she's upset because he's messing around, then you don't want her to feel guilty (and transfer that guilt to you) for messing around on him too.Let her know that you're there for her, and that when she's clear you'd like a shot at a relationship. But that either way you're fine with just being friends. Then leave the ball in her court.
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