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writes: Help, my folks are rushing me to have a girlfriend and partner, I'm feeling pressurised, and uncomfortable, plus I might find myself not even wanting to be with a woman, I think that I might be gay how can i get the back off, and when I want to get involved i will. I am only 21 turning 22. Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (19 February 2006):
 Sounds like you need to tell them all to leave you alone and not try and run your life for you, yes this will be hard and may put you out of favour for awhile but it really has to be done as it is YOUR life, not theres and they do not own you.
It is better to get them to back off than feel you have to start a relationship with the first woman that comes along so that they leave you alone, dont do this lots of people do and everyone gets hurt in the long term.
If you are doubtful about your sexuality then relax, this is normal, loads of people worry about it, you will know when you know, maybe you are attracted to both sexes, dont stress yourself just go with what feels right.
Be brave and tell everyone to back off, once you do feel attracted to someone and start a relationship you will gain strength from this, even if your choosen partner is male.
If you do have a male partner then people will talk, they will try and talk you out of it and some friends maybe lost but if that happens at least you will know they were not your true friends.
Be brave and find your own way in your own time.
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