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writes:Need advice on a recent relationship. I've been seeing this guy for three months, he's in a relationship going on 2 1/2 years, I am single. We have had the best times, here recently I visited him for two days and during my stay he told me he couldn't see me anymore because he couldn't cheat on his girlfriend. All of a sudden he develops a conscience? After that conversation the rest of my stay was very uncomfortable, he began to treat me like a one night stand that I was. My heart is broke, not sure what I did wrong. Very confused cause after he told me all that, we still had sex?? I don't want this to end between him and I. I have never felt emotionally bonded to someone like I feel towards him. What can I do to win him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): Let him go. He is not yours, he belongs to someone else. It's not right to sleep with a taken man, how can you allow yourself to even do this? Let him forget his mistake with you, and have his life back before you end up hurting him, or hurting yourself over this obsession because that's all it is. Everyone wants what they can't have. There are plenty of wonderful single men out there, take your pick.
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reader, swtbgirl +, writes (19 September 2009):
I may soon find myself in your situation. I may not have the right answers but will offer what advice I can. We all deserve to be happy. It sounds to me like his body is telling him one thing and his heart is telling him another. Does he have children too? I'm not sure how to "win him back" but your availability may be key here. Only good things will happen if you keep your distance. Either you will start to heal or he will find he can't be without you. Is she on to him? Sometimes I wonder if in my situation he wants to get caught. I think men often do not want to man up and say this marriage isn't working for me and I want out. Instead they live a life that if ever found out will end their relationship. I hope you can tell me a little more and maybe together we can learn more about the pros and cons of our secret lives.
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