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writes: im 16 years old im pregnant and my dad is an alcoholic. I want him to stop coz he is tearing the family apart and he keaps promising but ends up breaking them. What can i do please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I too have a father who is an alcoholic. I am 33 years old and have just asked my father to leave my home. I have allowed him to live with my husband and I (and our three children) in an effort to try and help him. I have done everything in the world to try and help my dad, but I have just realized that I cannot fix him. He is the only one who can change this situation. We have done rehab, meds, the whole nine yards. The truth is he does not want to quit drinking. I have been stressed and depressed. I cannot function as the wife and mother that my husband and children deserve. Something had to go. I love my daddy dearly, but he was tearing my family apart and I had to make a decision to put my family first. What do you say to your little boy when he asks you why Papa is acting like that? It's terrible when your 7 year old knows what being ****-faced drunk looks like. I could not take it anymore. I guess what I am trying to say is you have to put your baby first. Children are innocent and they do not ask to be born into this world...we bring them into it (and it's a f'ed up world). That being said, they deserve our love and protection and to have the gift of innocence for as long as we can possibly give it to them. Treasure your child, make every effort to think of them and put their needs and happiness before anyone elses. Including your father. I know how hard this may be, but my kids have been exposed to way too much thanks to my alcoholic father. If I could turn back time...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Take my advice, I've been on booze for ten years. You need to make two seperate voids in your head. In one void you will be a protective and professional mum and not listern to the promises made. Your child will thank you one day. In the other void you will talk to your pop even when he's smashed. Tell him how you feel and that you love him always. There must be a trigger for his alcoholism, try to get advice from your doctor too. Don't mix your voids cos you'll all be fucked, be strong or you will fail. Good luck little one xxx
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reader, SouthernBelle  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 I myself was recently in your situation. I am 17 and was pregnant, I sadly had a miscarriage but my father is also an alcoholic. He has been for years, and my family has had to accept the fact that he's not going to change, and I hate to say this but there really isn't anything you can do but distance yourself from him. Alcoholics don't tend to quit drinking until they hit rock bottom or have something happen in their lives thats like a wake up call, hey I need to quit drinking. You can't talk to an alcoholic because they are convinced that they have no problem and they aren't a drunk. In my case my father and my mother are divorced so I only had to see him at certain times, if you live with him it may be hard but I would try and avoid him as much as possible while he's drinking. If you are quite a ways along in your pregnancy you may want to try and find somewhere else for a while to keep you and your unborn child. I know it doesn't help much but feel free to message me, I will offer whatever advice I can.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (4 March 2008):
 I know your question is regarding your father's alcoholism and how you can get him to stop drinking (and the truth is YOU CAN'T...sorry) but I'm kind of concerned about how this may be affecting your pregnancy situation. Has your dad's drinking made it more difficult to cope with? Does he even know about it? Can you speak to your mom or an aunt or a friend's parent or even the father's parents? I don't know the specifics of your situation and I'm sure you've thought of these questions before, but you're in a time of need right now and need to focus on your self right now. Trying to handle another person's problem at this time is probably the most stressful thing you can do for yourself at the present. Take care of yourself and I wish you the best of luck.
-Jmo
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 March 2008):
 You can't stop him drinking. I don't know if you've ever had an addiction but breaking it is incredibly difficult and sometimes, even when u want to stop its not tht easy. What u can do is ask ur dad to get help off AA or a similar organisation. For teens like urself there is an organisation called alateen which gives support to the kids of alcoholics. i'm sure u could find their details by searching on google. Good luck.
CD
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