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Wife wanted voyeurism, ended up being a threesome...

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Question - (30 April 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 6 June 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok, I let my wife open a can of worms and now I regret.

My wife said she didn't want a threesome, BUT she was interested in a bit of voyeurism. She said she wanted to have sex with me in front of someone.

I finally agreed, not too eager about it, but at the same time it was exotic. We discussed whether we pick a stranger or a friend and after long debate decided a friend. So we picked the same friend as he is really trustworthy.

Anyhow, the fateful night came and my wife got nervous, saying it felt awkward being naked in front of this guy. He mentioned would it make her more comfortable if he got naked? To which she said yes.

OK, not a problem, right? Well when he took off his pants we noticed he had a huge penis. This thing had to be 8-9" soft! She started making out with me, but kept looking over towards him, particularly his penis. He was jerking it off now, and it was growing another couple of inches. There was sooooo much lust in my wife's eyes and she finally asked if she could play with him. I hesitantly said yes, but it was just such an awkward moment to say no.

Well she crawled over to him and starting stroking him and not to be left out I took her doggystyle. Eventually her stroking turned into a all out blowjob. It actually made me jealous though, as my penis being smaller she never tries to deepthroat, but with him she was trying. She wasn't resisting when he was pushing her head down. He was being rough with her and she was allowing it, when I do it she gets upset about it. Top it all off, she swallowed him, which she never does for me, EVER.

All in all a situation that I wasn't 100% comfortable with progressed into a nightmare and now I can't get it out of my head. We have 2 children together and I don't want this to ruin that. I know I should have said no, but what's done is done. What should I take from this? Looking back it makes me wonder if there has been something going on between these two and they just wanted to get my approval somehow.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010):

If you think this two were doing something before then is gonna be a big problem to you cause firstly you had a discussion about doing threesome.The man is got it and your wife is kind of enjoying your friend and you feel jealous.You agreed to do it,so continue with your wife and thats it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010):

hey, you should loosen up, and try new things with your wife, ask the friend again, or a female friend, and have another threesome. you only live once.

dont let it get to you, your wife might figure it out, and that could ruin itttt!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010):

If there is any possible solution, that is to even things up. Have a threesome with another woman and when you are done leave it at that, otherwise this will destroy your marriage. Thinking you can just forget is a mistake. Talk to her, tell her you need to be able to even things out and then leave it alone

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A female reader, rockwell United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

Well to make you feel better you pick a female friend to have sex "infront of" and see what she says about that. This should let you know if this has been going on for a while. If she says no then all this was probably a plan to get approval from you. And now she won't be willing to return the favor for you

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010):

Well, to put your mind at ease, there was likely nothing going on with them before hand.

I suggest explaining to her everything that is upsetting you about this encounter. If you don't get it 100% out in the open, you will never move on. It will likely be an incredibly difficult situation to discuss, but it needs to be done.

I had a threesome once with my GF at the time and a good male friend. I never looked at her the same way again and we broke up soon after. I had thought I'd be cool with it, but that turned out not to be the case. It was fun and exciting at the time, but it was hard for me not to think of her as a slut, even though that wasn't the case at all. It wasn't fair to her, not in the least.

I hope something useful comes out of this story for you. Unfortunately there may be no way for you to move on, then again, if you two can talk it out COMPLETELY, that is the best chance you have. Good luck!

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A female reader, goowes United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

goowes agony auntWow, that's heavy. Start strengthing yourself and protecting your weak areas. Any threesome period is a mega to do and keep relation in tact. You were supposed to have made rule ahead of time. So now I would really find out about her lust, she sounds like she is needing what you don't know is needed. You have to address that. Plan for success and failure regarding money, kids, home etc. That guy should not be in your world regularly. Tell her you felt dishonored and less preferred. Get a toy the same size as dude. Use it well, read up on how a womans body works and get busy.

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