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writes: I am 21 years old, me and my now very new ex boyfriend broke up mostly because he needs to focus on the 2 jobs he really wants and university also.These are things that are very important to him (he is 21 also). We were together for 5 months, it was great, BUT he was unsure at one point how he felt for me he said its not love YET but he does care for me a lot..so then the break up comes, I actually handeled it quite well, and then comes my birthday, he sees me in a new crowd, sees am friendly with guys (who have gfs, but he doesnt know that) the evening goes on and I get a txt message after he leaves which went somethin like: I see you as a girl I love being around, and I want you to see me as a guy in any view you want, I wanna be with you in any way you want as long as its you, I cannnot lose you now... When we broke up we said like ye we can still hang out, have fun, go out what ever but no relationship and no expectations.. now,my quiestions is: I want to be with him, how do I get it back to the satge we were? How do I ask him now to tell me what he wants and feels for me? I told him we need to talk he said ok no problem. How do I talk to him? I think he is afraid of another serious relationship, like he wants to but is sacred.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 Talk to him and try and reach a compromise, you continue the relationship but make it less intense so he can spend time on his studies, work something out that is mutually agreeable.
He is trying to please everyone and is getting tied up in knots so much he does not know what to do, or how to do it, just talk it through and be prepared to negotiate and compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2006): You ask him what he wants and how feels for you. To talk to him, call him up, meet in person somewhere quiet and out of curious ears, and see how it goes.
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