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*aydilla11
writes:I have a situation i am going through, my ex fiance just contacted my sister and confessed to her that she loved me 2 years after our breakup. The problem is that i currently have a girlfriend that is an amazing person our relationship so far is good but i know deep down inside i still have feelings for my ex-fiance.. the reason we broke up was we were very young and made many mistakes and there were a lot of trust issues and i needed to grow up and maybe she did as well, but the matter of fact is she told my sister that she wishes she can talk to me but doesn't call me because she knows i have a girlfriend so now should i call her and if i do what do i say to her? how do i go about starting a conversation with her after 2 years?
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reader, hopeless romantic 101 +, writes (13 June 2012):
The thing about Exs is that they are Exs for a reason and sometimes we get so wrapped up in love and passion of the good times we shared with them that we often forget about the bad and why the relationship ended in the first place. When people break up and get back together they think this time around things will be different but 90% of the time the same issues that broke you up before will break you up again whether she messed up or you did. Ant then you might wish you would've just moved forward in your life than waste more time and more heartache. Id say take what you've learned from your past relationship and apply it to your present relationship and maybe you two will make it further. But if this situation has made you realize you dont wanna be with your girlfriend or dont care for her then break up with her.But speaking from experiences dont ruin a good relationship for one that is already ruined because you were blessed to even find happiness again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): If you'd rather have the chance of getting back together with your ex than be with your girlfriend, make the call. Don't leave your gf thinking you'll be back together with your ex because it's not guaranteed. However if you'd rather risk being single than not making the call, then do it. No regrets. Maybe you guys will still have a spark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): You're under no obligation to call her. She is your ex, meaning she's no longer part of your life, and you have a girlfriend. It would be highly disrespectful to your girlfriend for you to call your ex just because she says she still has feelings for you. now if you're having doubts about your girlfriend, then you need to stop and decide if you want to continue with her or not. If yes, then you should respect her and not be talking to your ex because you know that this kind of conversation is going to center around whether to get back together or not. That's not an appropriate conversation to be having with anyone while you're currently still in a relationship with someone else. If you want to be having these kinds of conversations and exploring where they lead then you should break up with your girlfriend first.So what if your ex called your sister and said stuff? Why should that mean that you now need to "do something"? You were getting along just fine in your life before, so why must you attend to this incident? but maybe this is a wake up call to examine your current relationship and where it's headed. Maybe you don't really want to be with your gf. But you need to decide on that first before you do start talking about feelings with anyone else.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 June 2012):
 Why do you want to talk to her? Is it because it makes you happy that she still loves you? She is letting you make the call so if you happen to break up with your girlfriend your ex fiancee is not responsible for it. If you just want to tell her what you learned from the relationship, but you choose to move on with your girlfriend, then the call is not needed. Friendship is not possible. She can't be friends with a man she loves.
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