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writes:My ex, still wants to hold me and be close to me, he broke it up, should I allow this as I love him and want him back or tell him to leave me alone.I'm confused coz I know he loves me but someone got in the way of our relationship and he said he can't be with me (mom from hell)
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 It's probably because he does still care alot about you. He feels close and comforted by this form of affection. It however doesn't mean that he will come back into the relationship. I would suggest that you just give him a little space and time to reflect. He needs to get his emotions in check and decide for sure just what it is he feels and wants from you.
It's only fair to you that he should work out his feelings and understand why he let someone else interfere in your relationship. He must make a clear choice about the situation based on the real facts and he must face this all head on. Once he has given himself the time to figure it all out, it is hopefull that he will choose to correct his behavior and seek you out.
If the events prove that he can be trusted and all is forgiven, you can work on the relationship at hand. Continue to be his friend but don't push the relationship issue. Men usually can't take being pressured. This can also be the case for a woman but it's men who are usually the more distant and aloof when pressured.
If you both come to terms and work on the friendship, who knows, in time it will perhaps become a more stable and respected relationship. You do need to stand up for yourself, without putting him on the defense. No attacking! Talk things out and let it go!
When Love COMES there is no denying which will satisfy the thirst, than that of a love which you have placesd FIRST!
GOD PREVAILS! SEEK HIS WISDOM!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hi..I'm much older than you, I'm in my 40's, but I'm going through exactly the same thing right now..My fiance of 7 asked me to move out of the apartment, but yet he still considers us "boyfriend & girlfriend"?? He says he is under alot of stress..and needs to rethink his life. My whole world has been torn upside down. I am moving 2000 miles away from him, yet he plans on coming to see me at least once a month, and will call several times a day. While I am preparing to move, he's acting like everything is just fine, constantly hugging me, touching me, saying "I love you"..and its KILLING me...
My friends and family tell me to just write him off when I leave in 5 days, but I'm finding it extremely hard to do so. I don't know if I can just cut everything off, even though deep down inside I know this would be best.
I guess you have to follow your heart..like someone said to me, you can't just touch a switch and turn off your feelings..it just doesn't work that way!
Are you prepared to deal with the pain involved by still being in contact with him? Knowing that you may never be together? Is it worth the pain to you?? For me, even though I don't expect us to ever be together again, I love him enough to endure the pain, and I will cherish every moment that we have together. I know that I'm going to bringing out quite a heartache in the very end..but its what I have chosen to do. I am going into this with my eyes wide open..knowing that we'll probably never be together again.
Just think everything over carefully..that's all you can do. And remember that if he hurt you once, he could certainly hurt you again.
Good luck sweetie..I hope you will be alright either way.
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