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writes:I am 30 years old and dated a woman who was 24 for about a year and everything seemed to be going well but we broke up about a month ago because we were always fighting and didnt' have similiar interests or goals. About two weeks ago, my ex-girlfriend's 18 year old little sister who happened to have my number called me and asked if I'd like to take her out. I decided to give it a try and have become very involved with the younger sister. She and have a lot in common and the younger sister is very serious about staying in a relationship and getting married. I think she's just more mature. Now I find out that my ex-girlfriend is extremely angry and wants me to break it off with her little sister. She said the only reason I wanted to date her sister was to get back at her for leaving me but this isn't true. My new girlfriend is very upset about this saying she really values her relationship with her older sister but wants to continue seeing me. I don't want to alienate these two siblings, but don't want to break up with my new girlfriend either. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Sisters are off limits... didn't you know that?
Seriously... this is a great example why this rule is there. If you are gonna flounce around it then you better be ready to pay the price.
Because the sisters will forgive each other eventually... if you hurt anyof them... the same will not be said for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Despite what she may tell you about wanting to get married etc - which is a bit strange after only a couple of weeks - I suspect there's a bit of sibling rivalry going on here, whether or not she's actually aware of it. It's most probably a subconscious thing. If that's the case, you're the pawn in her game of chess, the piggy in the middle.
Apart from that, a 12 year age gap at her age doesn't bode well. But if you can't bring yourself to end this, at least be discreet about it and don't rub it into your ex's face.
If I were to put myself in your shoes I think I'd be really flattered that this youngster was after my body and I'd find it difficult to end it, so I sympathise with you. I don't really think I'd have done anything different to you, but common sense would tell me that ending it is the most sensible thing to do in the long run.
I hope you manage to sort this out amicably - there's enough war in the world already!
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (7 August 2008):
 There are boundries and there are boundries. I think your ex's sister (your current girl) was out of line calling you and asking you out and because you knew who she was, it would have been wise to not go out with her.
You've only known her as your gal for 2 weeks and honestly if I were you, I would consider telling the new gal that the two of you should hang it up before it gets really ugly.
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