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30-35,
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writes:My ex boyfriend left me for someone else in 2017, the girl rejected him and he tried to go back to me. In that same year someone close to me died. He still left. He later proposed I told him had he worked out with the other girl he wouldn’t be talking to me. Now in 2020-2021. Him and I reconnected as friends for the past 8 months. He doesn’t live on my same state anymore. Anyway long story short we agreed to be friends. This ex told me on 2017, that his heart was somewhere else and that he proposed out of love. I got engaged and he keeps saying negative things about my fiancé. Now, I told I was never really in love with him. He exploded and thought I was so wrong. I told him his words were no different than in 2017z he has no right to get mad. I don’t feel guilty I felt as if I did nothing wrong I wasn’t playing for-for tat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2021): If I read this correctly this guy broke up with you three years ago. You have a new fiancee'. Why are you still wasting time with him? You are doing nothing but causing chaos in your life.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 January 2021):
 Does it matter?
In the big picture, no.
I think you realized (perhaps) after the fact that you didn't REALLY lobe him, but I think you told him that to hurt him for how he hurt you in the past, even if you claim that it wasn't tit for tat. Because what was the point in telling him? Other than to lash out a bit?
Be honest. At least with yourself.
Secondly? Why are you even BOTHERING to be "friends" with this guy?
He was seeing someone else while dating you. Then dumped you to date her, except SHE didn't want him. She what does he do? He goes back to you. And when that doesn't work, he PROPOSE to you. Thinking you will not turn down a proposal. He thought you were SO desperate (or dumb) that you would "forget" about what he did and pretend to be happy to get a ring.
Now that he is single ( I presume) he wants to be "friends" with you. Instead of being HAPPY for his friend (you) getting engaged he talks smack about your fiancé.
THAT is not the behavior of a good guy.
He sounds like an overall shitty person.
Wish him well and cut him lose. BLOCK all contact and focus on the guy you intend on marrying. Your fiancé. Because he ACTUALLY matter, your ex doesn't.
There IS a good reason he is your ex. There IS a good reason you didn't keep him in your life for a long time. Remember that and cut him lose.
STOP inviting drama into your life and relationship - drama you don't need. He isn't a FRIEND. He is a SHITTY ex.
Come on, OP use some common sense and have more respect for your fiancé and relationship.
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