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30-35,
*sedcarparts
writes:I won't get into great detail about how me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship. I got an earlier post if anyone wishes to read on that. Just that she began liking someone else around March during the time she was still in a relationship with me and she admitted to it last May which was when I broke up with her. After the break up she continued to contact me while I was avoiding any attempt she was making at trying to get my attention until about a week later. We continued to discuss our situation and explained to me that the reason for this is because I need to make changes in my life in order for her to be committed in a relationship with me and that it wouldn't work right now anyway. She then later said that she was going to end her new relationship and give me time for those changes because she still loves me however she never kept her word and ended up not knowing what to do.She went on a 3 week vacation after that and texted me the moment she got home telling me she's back. However she then went on ignoring me after that, not responding to any of my messages or answering my calls. I grew a little irritated so I told her I had something to discuss in order to get her attention and as soon as I did I ditched her like she was doing to me. Two weeks go by and I hear from her again asking how things are going. I ignored the first text but responded to the second one she sent 2 days later. We went on talking for a while but responding several hours to a day later on my part. 3 days after our conversation ended she texted me again asking if we're just never going to talk again.This was yesterday that she sent this and I'm still stuck on what I should do. I still love her very much and I would love for us to be together again but not knowing what her intentions for contacting me are really throws me off. I want to know from personal experiences by other people what the main purposes are for an ex to try to communicate. I wouldn't think she would still be trying to talk to me if she got another boyfriend. Could they have broken up? Also the main question how do I respond to her last message? Do I tell her that yes we're never going to talk again? Do I ask her what she wants to talk about? Do I ask her what she wants from me or what her intentions are? I need help =[
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Oh dear 2old4this we are not all like that you know.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Women are like apes swinging through a jungle. They never let one vine go before grabbing another. Quite simply she doesnt have another guy yet and is still trying to loosely hold onto you. You are her backup guy. Don't be that. Tell her your moving on right now. Then, do just that, move forward. Date others. Ignore any future texts and calls from her for at least 3 months. During that time work on making yourself better. After that if you still want to be with her drop her a line.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (31 July 2011):
To be honest I think she's contacting you because she is hurt and needs a shoulder to cry on. Don't be her shoulder she has done nothing to deserve any nice treatment from you. Tell her that you have moved on and now she should too.
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