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30-35,
*ouise spreadbury
writes:my dad is engaged to another woman whilst married to my mum. my mum knows all this but she refuses to leave him and kick him out i have never got on with my dad, so when i found out that he was engaged it came as no shock. but it did to my mum.only now she is in a mess i dont know what i should do?should i talk to her and tell her to leave him or what?she is so unhappy it is depressing the kids.what can i do to help her, to help herself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Yeah talk to her, tell her if she's only staying with him to try and keep the family together, or for the sake of the kids then it's not working. You might be physically together but emotionally you and your siblings are being torn apart by this.
You love them both, but you'd rather have a happy confident mother raise you alone than have her stay with your dad and be miserable.
If those aren't her reasons and she's just stuck in love with him and hopes he'll come around then tell her, it's not going to happen and it is time to start thinking of the kids.
Tell her you love her and no matter what happens in her life she will always have you but it's time for her to start making her life good again. It's time for her to be free of this relationship and start living again.
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reader, ShexiRawwrrMew +, writes (12 August 2010):
well tell your mam to get a divorce and get on with her life she is doing nothing for her kids and obviously not helping her ex husband either let him be happy and soon she will find happyness all of her own.
just move on and life will be alot better !
hope this helps
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reader, Kenj +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Sorry to hear that, there is really nothing you can do in this situation but your mum and dad should realise its hurting you and others.
You could try having a sit down talk with your mum and tell her how much its affecting you all but dont force the situation, she has to realise in her own time what is best to do.
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