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writes:My dad has a very bad temperhe an my mum had gone through many crisis over the years to solve this problem up and it has work because of her patience and Christian will to have a close family.Lately my dad aged 70 has gone back to his complaining and anger attacks blaming everyone of his unability to be quiet. He had two important quarrels with my mom this week about useless things.yesterday morning my mom asked me to go with them to eat ina country weekend house they have, I agree to take her by car and stay for lunch only, we got there and there was no response to the door bell not to our shouts so I was to jumo the bench to see if he was ok when he opened in a wrathh attack saying he's only happy when alone and that the had a little accident while cutting his nails cos of us ringing the bell.He started a big fight shouting at my mum who askd me to leave so we got in the car,he came and open my door times shouting at me and menacing to hit me. .I had a nervous breakdown got out of the car and shouted at him asking him to hit me my mom came trying to get peace but I kept shouting him back and telling him he did not deserved my mum aring and that the only mother f***** there was him and things alike.He used to have this sort of fights with my eldest sister years ago but they finished and she forgave him but I told him aloud I was not her and that things were not to be the same about me, he told me of course not as I was useless not even good to have anal sex with(typical spanish swearword for chauvinists).I had to stop on the road gutter to cry aloud and in my house's parking. Mon tried to help me and told me I was nervous to move out that moment.I had a very big headache and had to have a tranquilizer, I am to leave the house we live in together.At night when he did not turn up mom told me maybe we would have to go back and check he was ok, I refused and told her to phone my brother cos I have decided not to talk to him for a long long time.It all happened yesterday, I think I cannot talk to him again I do not want to get quiet and forget so that this happens to me agaoin because of my fault.he has been a hard working and trid to help his children all the time but his temper is like this and yesterday I couldn't avoid such a crisis seeing him shouting at me so much.My self steem is not exactly perfect and this things get me down, I do not really know how to handle with the situation in a good way
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reader, Astrid +, writes (2 July 2007):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes I'm doing so but promised my mother to hold on a bit and do it in a calm way, I have my ganny's house empty mear work so I'll move there in a month or so before saving up a bit more to get a morgage loan or rent a nearby house to work, I've just started a new job and have to see if it goes right before further decissions thanks a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): Anger in family context in hard to cope with, true. If he's always behaved so, seems like there's hardly a way for your dad to cure from this. He needs counceling but this implies he should admit firstly he has a problem. I think the more you'll stay there the more stress you accumulate, don't let this reflect upon your relationships. From what you say you seem to get on well with the other family members, for now all you can do is avoid him and possibly change the environment, rent a place? Plus it's hard to maintain the same home and fear another such incident while bringing a friend around. At least when you have your own child you'll see to it that he grows in a calm house, let that be your comforting thought.
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