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writes:heyxMy brother went off to uni, and now he's back and he's said that I have gotten fat.When he says this to me, what comeback can I give him? I don't want him to see that it hurts my feelings, so what can I do to make this less obvious. How can I make it clear that his words do not affect me? Thank youx Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): This is just general sibling rivalry, as another post says. Tell him, "Nah, I guessed you wouldn't have grown up." if that makes you feel any better :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): You could tell him it's too bad that after all that time in class at university he still hasn't learned you don't give a rat's behind what he thinks.
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Tell him it's genetic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Have you gained weight?
Anyways, you can always tell him that funny he mentions you weight, for you have noticed but didn't want to say anything, but it looks like your hair is receding: Rogain?
That should place him in front of the mirror for a while.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Just ignore it, as its sibling rivarly and reacting makes it worse.
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (20 March 2008):
 Just ignore him... Don't react at all and he'll be back at uni before you you know it! Any other reaction will just give him the satisfaction of knowing he's gotten to you. Good luck!
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reader, Emmy-Lou +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Just say "whatever at least i'm not going bald" and examine his head slightly!
That will make him moan and leave you alone for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Why would you want to do that?
Does he have some kind of power because he was mean and ugly and hurt your feelings? Of course your feelings are hurt. That is normal.
How about you resist the urge to sink to his level? You don't have to get all weepy, but you don't have to lie and act like you don't care when you do.
If you don't say anything in response, one of two things will happen. Either he will lose interest in saying it to you because he's not getting a satisfactory response, or in a moment of mature lucidity, he might ask why you are not replying. Then, you can tell him that you think he's a mean, hateful jerk ... smile ... and walk away. If he comes after you, tell him that you have said all you have to say, and you don't want to talk about it. Then excuse yourself and say that you want to go be with people that like you, and treat you nicely.
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