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writes:I have a very stupid brother with the common sense of a fly....but he has a very bad case of ADHD and a bunch of other things...so hes labelled mentally ill,but hes not retarded. unfortunately though my mother thinks i am just like him and am going to make the mistakes he has in the past.......but no matter how much i tell her im not going to she just doesnt believe, how do i get it through her head that i am not mentally ill like my brother is and i am not going to ruin my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Look i no what situation ur in completely.My brother is 13 and has ADHD and im 15 my mum presumes that i have ADHD and will do the things he has done.The best thing you can do is to prove your mum and aniione else who doubts you wrong.Yew show them that you dont suffer from ADHD and that you can make up your own mynd and also make ur own mistakes.I hope everything ends up the way you want it to
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reader, stina +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Hi Metal,
If your mother has this kind of mindset, there's not much you can do except show her that you're not going to make the same mistakes that your brother has made. Try not to let her problem become your problem. Do what's best for you and if your mother is proud of you, then that's great!
But if she keeps saying all of these negative things about you, you can try to let her know how you actually feel. Don't be afraid to let her know that it hurts your feelings. People are much more responsive when you let them know you're feeling bad because of what they've said.
If you think your mother wouldn't react in a positive way from a talk about things, then just try to ignore her comments. They will only drag you down. Or you could turn her nasty words into your motivation to be the best that you can be at everything you do in your life.
Sorry, there are not too many options for your question -- like I said, the issues here are not your's, they are your mother's. She is the one who should be asking "how can I stop thinking that my son will ruin his life?" (Don't tell her this, though! It will just start or fuel an argument.)
Take care.
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