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writes:My boyfriend's mother thinks I am too young for him. I am 15 and he's 16 (turning 17 next month). She doesn't know me at all aside from my age and feels as if my relationship with him will be unsuccessful because of me. I don't really blame her; 15 year olds aren't necessarily known for their intelligence or maturity, but he and I are only a year and a half apart. Personally, I don't put myself on the same level as an adult, but I'm not completely irrational or immature. I would like to get to know her, but she's really not willing to give me a chance. In addition, she's a bit judgmental towards my mother for letting me date at my age. My had my first boyfriend at age 13 and we were together for two years, but only because our parents felt as though we were mature enough to handle it. I'm really not used to being treated like I'm not able to handle things by adults, so this whole situation with her is a little different for me. I'm not sure how to approach her or if I should. He's my second boyfriend and we've been together for only two months, but we really understand one another and I'd like her to see that so that this relationship can be really open. Right now it feels sort of shady because she doesn't want to meet me. How should I address this (if at all)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): Stop putting yourself down... quote, "personally, I don't put myself on the same level as an adult, but I'm not completely irrational or immature".
Most so-called adults are idiots.
You sound perfectly mature for your age, and she sounds like a righteous, judgmental, over-protective mother/*****. If I were you I would be pissed off.
I'm the same age as your boyfriend (nearly 17) and the few guys I know who are my age all have younger girlfriends, i.e. around 15. People mature at different ages, and generally for teenage girls it's a earlier than their male peers.
I also strongly suspect this woman would have a problem with anyone her son brought home. If she’s refusing to meet you, she's completely in the wrong… childish, bigoted and a whole host of other words spring to mind. I wouldn't want to meet her.
If she's concerned about you guys having sex, just prove her wrong by waiting on it. It's not as if he would be arrested though, given the minor age difference.
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reader, oliviaaa  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 age is nothing but a number tbh.
i say that if you were mature enough to stay in your first ever relationship for 2 years at the age of 13 then your mature enough to be going out with a 16 year old, a year and a half isnt a big age difference.
i say that you try have a chat to her and explain everything and if she doesnt listen maybe yiou should write it down and give it to your boyfriend to give to her?
you should ask your boyfriend to speak to his mum to.
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