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writes:My boyfriend of a year has a friend who is a complete douche bag. He's 22 (almost 23), an alcoholic, egotistical and self-centered. And he's dating my 17 year old sister. Unfortunately, 17 is the legal age of consent in Illinois.I never thought I could be this angry. My boyfriend tries to defend his behavior by saying he's not like my ex (who was the same way but not an alcoholic). I gave my argument toward the matter and have even warned my parents about him. My boyfriend told them not to trust him, either.But what do I do about this situation? It's hard enough dealing with the fact that my 17 year old sister is dating someone who is almost 23 but she's dating a guy I've pretty much hated since I first met him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Birds of a feather flock together. What does it say about your boyfriend that this is his best friend?
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Mmm interesting, I'm out on the limb here, sounds like you are attracted to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Think about it in a positive light. If he proves you right and hurts your sister. Then your sister will learn a very valuable lesson.At 17 she will go against the grain. The more you think bad of him the more she will stay with him to prove you wrong. Instead of coming to you if they are any problems. she may keep them to herself with the fear of bieng told "i told you so"Play the game! Fake liking him, fake supporting her. fake that they will be happy. do a good job of faking it.That way if anything bad does happen she will tell you instead of hiding it.and thats what she will do if she thinks everyone hates him.The type of guy you described will show his true colours if his intentions are foul. If he genuinely wants to make your sister happy then he deserves trust until he breaks it.Dont fall into the trap of bieng against them because girls at that age will choose the boyfriend. Think what the boyfriend brings her... A dramatic increase in social status. She maybe really wants to be part of a highly regarded social circle. and that means alot to her.So play the game smart and trust that fate will look after your sister and teach her valuable lessons along the way
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