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writes:My boyfriend said he wanted me to stop shaving! He said he doesn't want me to look like I'm pre-pubescent. Do you think he really means that? Or is he trying to control me? It's really embarrasing for a girl to have hairy armpits and legs.Should I do it? What should I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, vicky97  +, writes (2 April 2011):
My last boyfriend wanted me to do the same thing and I felt against it but I ended up doing it because I love him and want to make him happy and i've come to love my body and my hair. It's a personal decision but if you love him and he's sincere about it I say why not? :)
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reader, mystique150  +, writes (14 October 2008):
Perhaps he is freeing you from a societal view of the female body. Most guys these days are accustomed to the waxed/shaved pornographic pussy. It has somehow become fashionable to rid ourselves of femininity! You should be very happy to have come across a guy that can see beyond the "norm" of today. The guy deserves some credit for that.
If you don't feel comfortable with letting all your hair grows try letting one area go at the time. However, if it still does not appeal to you I would recommend standing your ground on your beliefs and come up with your reasons as to why you personally disagree with his views. If he is the controlling type you will then see his true colours. Most people in a mutual level relationship will agree on some level and will enter a level headed debate on the topic. This should then end on terms that both of you understand the situation and appreciate each others beliefs/feelings or opinions.
By the way, I shave my underarms. I sometimes shave my legs and I have recently tried growing my pubic hair longer than usual. I don’t really feel a necessity to get rid of it. It is after all part of my nature and I should embrace it. My man by the way doesn’t mind what way I keep my hair. Yet, next week I may decide that I have enough and remove it all. The choice after all is ultimately my own and not any one else’s.
Deni
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reader, LaydeeLove..x  +, writes (23 September 2008):
he has no right to tell you to stop shaving if you want to shave then shave you should tell him to scram if he does not like it as you have your right to your personal hygiene its your body you can shave if you wanna shave :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): do whatever the hell you want -- don't let him control you, it's your body.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (22 September 2008):
 He can't make you stop shaving. There's no way on earth I would ever let a boyfriend of mine dictate to me about my personal self grooming.
It's your body, if you want to shave your legs, then you shave your legs. If you're anything like me, I wouldn't want to be seen dead with hairy legs, it's bad enough when they're all spikey.
Just tell him, if he doesn't like it, then he can go visit the local zoo, I'm sure there's plenty of females there that would gladly accommodate him.
Be up front and straight with him and let him know you wont back down on your decision. If you do this for him...who knows what else he'll ask you to do or not do.
I say nip it in the bud my love.
Take care.
Big'smooth-legged'Sis
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