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writes:I need some advice on my boyfriend's sexual preference lol...gosh that sounds bad. Um...my boyfriend and I have been together for a while but sometimes I think he's either Bi or Gay. I mean I'm kinda boyish myself and that might be why we get along so well. I'm the type of chick that watches football and likes the outdoors and he rather stay inside and play on the computer or clean his room. What really bothers me is that he wants a 3-way and he talks about about he wants me to "Do" things to his rear!! When confronted he blows me off and says I should know him by now. I'm still confused though. Should I be worried that hes gay or should I just leave it alone since we get along so well? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, funkykev100  +, writes (1 December 2009):
he's not gay for asking so.
i have bought anal beads for my own pleasure.
certainly not into gay movies or giving a head.
but the sensation comes with anal beads is really intense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): You're certainly not alone in your discovery of rectal pleasure by stimulating the prostate gland and sensitive nerves around the anus -- even if you didn't know that's what you were doing. When touched or massaged, the prostate -- about a half-inch inside the opening of the anus -- is a spot in men's bodies that heightens sensations during many a male masturbation session, including at the time of orgasm. Why here? This area is kind of like the Space Shuttle launch pad: it's where the fluids of ejaculation gather just before they take off up the shaft of the penis. The immense energy prior to lift-off, complete with all that smoke and fire, is analogous to the pressure and super-sensitivity around the anus just before you shoot your payload into space, your girlfriend, or wherever.
Many heterosexual men never go there for a good time because, as you know, they negatively associate any kind of anal contact with being gay. However, there are plenty of straight singles and couples alike who give and get anal stimulation in different ways, so no, doing so in-and-of-itself does not make a gay man. If you fantasize about sex with women while you pull your penis and probe your anus, well, that's pretty strong evidence of heterosexuality, if you ask Alice -- and you did. But, perhaps the sexual orientation of someone who finds pleasure in any part of his- or herself is far less important than his or her awareness and recognition that our bodies are ours to enjoy -- or to ignore -- if we so choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): sorry please ignore last comment... or delete? never read completely, i totally apologise,,, but still he is no way gay! homosexuality is when he is attracted to someone of the same sex... without this very important factor, he is not a homosexual
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): he's asking to enter you, not a man to do vice versa... a straight man's dream.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): okay... this posting is from a straight guy... Wow.. first of all, ive never met a guy who didn't want a menage a trois (ie 3 way)...second... we like anything that makes us feel good, and yes, we do like things we see in porn movies... sadly that is not real. that being said, we also have this little place in between out ball sack and our anus called the perineum... yeah... you should check it out your boyfriends face when you find it... im pretty sure you will like the results... ;-)
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reader, MinxLegs  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 My ex loved to be played with in that way, even to the extent of penetration. Trust me it is not a sign of him being homosexual. The mans G spot is located there and it is perfectly natural and....even if it feels a little strange at first it can be a nice experience for both of you. Keep an open mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the answers!!! It really helped a lot and now I have a better understanding of everything. Thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): Guys have a g spot there!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): I like anal stimulation and I am not gay. It feels good. There are alot of sensory nerves there. Why wouldn't it feel good for him either?
He just knows what makes him super charged sexually and wow, he is asking you, communicating his needs-kudos.
It may be new to you and when we care and love someone and want to please them in the bedroom, some of our perceived notions of "acceptable" or "normal" sex will be challenged.
In the end, you both have to be receptive and resposive as well as attentitive to one another's needs.
Best Wishes.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Why does it matter to you if he might be bisexual? He wouldn't be with you if he didn't love you.
As for him wanting you to do stuff to his rear, well, let's say that there are a lot of nerves there and that for some guys it feels really good. That alone doesn't make him gay.
How did you confront him? If he felt you were being critical he may have felt the need to defend himself and thus blew you off. Next time you want to talk to him about it, try to consider that the way he opened himself to you and told you about his fantasies leaves him vulnerable to your reaction. I will assume that you won't him "so you like it up the ass, that sure makes you gay" =)
About the threesome, you will need to decide for yourself what is right for you. For a lot of people it's a nice fantasy, but in reality it's a nightmare. Personally I wouldn't go through with it because it will leave me thinking "what if he likes the other person better?".
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