My boyfriend seems a little too dependent on me, I am starting to feel responsible for his happiness, how could I talk to him about this?

A female age 36-40, *adAsh6705 writes:

I am having a problem with my boyfriend being a little too dependent on me. We both love each other very much and have been living together for about 6 months. I love spending time with him when we get a chance. I recently started a new job, and I was working an opposite schedule from him causing us to not be able to see each other as much. Now, I have changed my schedule a bit so that we can see each other more, but now he wants to spend all of that time together mostly sitting watching t.v. or something that is not very productive or stimulating and I feel like I need to be using some of this free time to take care of other responsibilities and not only "hanging out." Also, our quality of time spent together is not as great. It seems that he is mostly interested in having sex when we're alone, and he doesn't seem to have anything interesting to talk about anymore. I just feel like I have no mental connection in this relationship lately which is very very important to me. I know we do have that, it just seems that he is almost obsessed with only me and doesn't think about much else and it's starting to make me feel responsible for his happiness and his needs constantly. How can I talk to him about this without it sounding like an attack on him? I don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't want him to take anything the wrong way.

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A male reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (28 July 2008):

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