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writes:Ok, here goes :)I arranged to get a day off from work so that my boyfriend and I could watch a film that he had bought, and just spend a nice quiet night together... But I just found out that he watched it with his best friend instead.I'm furious that he decided to watch that film with his best mate instead of me... but I can’t help but feel like I'm overreacting in a way.I'm quite a laid-back person, and a nice person too (I guess) and I would NEVER, EVER stop him from seeing any of his mates. But he knows how exited I was about that night WE planned... It would’ve been perfect! Just us cuddling on the sofa...Worst of all he didn’t seemed bothered about it at all. I'm so upset. Should I talk to him about it? Am I overreacting? Or should I just forget about it and move on?Thank you for taking the time to read this x
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reader, wornoutmommy  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 My bf has done the same thing, for three weeks in a row now. We live together, but he works nights and I work evenings. We see each other for a little while in the morning but he has expressed that he can't sleep unless I'm sleeping- so I sleep in a little later to make sure he gets to sleep.
Anywho! The weekends we have off together; last night I got home from work and he's sleeping because he'd been at his friends all day. Then today he left to go shopping before I got up- I went to my parents to work on school work and when I got home he's gone to his friends again. After leaving him a note about missing him and wanting to spend time with him.
I understand your frustration here. We'll get a new movie that neither of us have seen- but I don't stop to watch tv very often. He'll watch it before me and has a 'picture memory' so remembers everything and will fall asleep or whine about having to watch the movie again- then if you go to watch the movie without him you're just upset or feel like crying. At least thats how I feel; I have so many movies that I've wanted to watch but because he's already watched them before me I won't.
What we started to do was play card games while watching movies. That way, if we're watching something he's seen before, he can focus on the cards and you can focus on the movie. I would suggest a card game that you don't have to pay a load of attention to though :) But how to get him to want to spend time with you when you have time available? If you come up with any good ideas pass them my way!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Do you guys not get to spend a lot of time together due to your work schedule?
Seeing as you took an unpaid day off to spend a special day with your boyfriend, you have a right to be steamed.
However, the petty thing is that this is a movie, which if there's time left in the day then you could go rent a different one or force him to sit through it again.
Pop some popcorn, snuggle with him on the couch under a blanket. His mate will get the hint that it's time to leave.
I would just politely tell your boyfriend, that the next time you arrange a day off specifically to spend time together then you expect it to be just you two and no one else. (That's if you don't get to see him a whole lot. If you do then this issue is a very minor one and can be easily brushed off)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Some have boyfriends who cheat, beat on them, steal or gamble all their savings, but you have one that watched a film with his mate. If you see it as a problem then to you it is a problem, to me I would say that's the last time I`m planning anything special with you, and see what he says.
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