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writes:i am 30 years old the mother of 1, 10 year old boy with my boy friend and we are now 13 years in relationship. He really loves me and i trust him and he always talk about married but still not yet decided. can i wait or can i leave him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (30 December 2009):
 Why on earth would he marry you? He is already getting all the benefits, without signing on the line. for 13 years you have been sending him the message that you are just fine with the relationship the way it is. In any way I can think of it you are married already. Many marriages don't last as long as your relationship has.
I don't know how the laws work in your country, or the customs. But, what would be so hard about going to a justice of the peace and paying the small fee and signing the papers. Would that make you happy? I know some people put of marriages forever because they think they need to throw a huge party, and spe4nd a years wages. But, in the end they are no more married than you are. He seems to be very committed to you, it would be a shame to throw that away over a piece of paper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): Is marriage the deal breaker?
You have been together 13 years so somethings working.
If you want marriage and he's sure then maybe you should leave and find someone that wants the same things from life as you
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2009):
After 13 years, if he hasn't set a date and actually asked, then he probably isn't bothered about marriage. If it means that much to you, you must speak to him.
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