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writes:ive beenwith my boyfriend a few months and he had my little girl and me move out of county with him then i got pregnant. he was very happy then i lost the baby he got angry and told me i had until the end of the month to take my daughter and go and if we have no where to go then thats where well have to be. few days later hes being nice again but hasnt said stay. he always said he never desert me why would a man do this and when he knows weve no money nowhere to go and so far from home and dosnt offer help? how can aman care so much one day and suddenly this? i love him im hurt and my little girl is so sad
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reader, Kinky Boots  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 I am so sorry to hear of the pain you are going through and loss of your baby, you must have some help from someone
I was in a similar situation. He said, move out, i stay and put up with the crap until one day i snapped, i got my child and i stayed with my daughter. We roughed it for months until a council house came available. It was scruffy, in a run down area, but the house cleaned up. The neighbours were poor, but had hearts of gold and i never looked back. Me and my son lived there for five happy years, it was fantastic. I built loads of confidence.
Have you no relatives that you can stay with until you get on your feet? Get away from him, he will drag you and your child down into the gutter.
You deserve better, so dont put up with sh*t, you are a beautiful person and your child needs a stable home.
Let me know how you get on.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (24 July 2008):
 Fade878, GREAT article on narcissism! I've bookmarked it and will be referring it!
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 He sounds like he needs meds. Perhaps he has a chemical imbalance and thus his erratic mood swings. It sounds like he has poor coping skills, let alone communicative skills, along with anger management issues. These are sure fire ingredients for an abusive dynamic.
Please check out this article to see if there are any "traits" that your BF exhibits.http://www.echo.me.uk/npd3.htm
Either way, I'd look into getting a job and looking for a place to rent, because he's proven to be unreliable, and you are the only one that can look out for you and your child.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (24 July 2008):
 A man who gets angry because a woman loses a baby and wants to throw her and her daughter out on the street is no good. If I was you, I'd be frightened for my daughters safety and move away as soon as I could. Your man sounds like a right PIG.
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reader, the ex wife +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Wow girl! My boyfriend at the time asked me and my two kids to move in. We did. We got married a year later. He kicked me out and my kids every six months until I got fed up and tired of not feeling like I had a place to call home. See, everytime he kicked me out and gave me a week, month, etc...he got meaner everytime. The 4th time he kicked me out he chased me with a pocket knife and said he was going to kill me (he was also very drunk). It's been a year and I still live on my own and he still hangs around begging me to live with him but I know better. My ultimate suggestion to you is fine, leave...don't go back. YOu two don't have a child together for a reason. Get out now while you can, please! Just save your money and GET OUT....Good Luck! If you wanna chat, send me a holla!
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (24 July 2008):
So, before you lost the baby there was no indication that he had an abusive side? Mr. Wonderful turned into a monster? The only causes that could explain a normally rational, considerate, loving boyfriend turning into a completely different person overnight would be something like a brain tumor or late onset schizophrenia. Has he been checked out by a doctor? Any car accidents or head injuries?
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