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female
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:So, I have a big sex issue. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and though I've always know he has a low sex drive, recently our sex life has really been lacking. For the past 3 weeks, we have rarely been having sex, he acts like he's not really turned on, and neither of us will orgasm because he loses his erection halfway through. Sometimes I can get it back up but then he will lose it again. We are both very frustrated with the situation and it is affecting our love life. I confronted him about it and even though he assured me he loves me, etc, etc, he has become unexcited with our sex life and says he wishes I wasn't so "self-conscious" in bed. He told me that I don't do things to arouse him. Though we have no problem getting an erection, and I've been trying to be more spontaneous, it doesn't seem to be working. It makes me feel like it's all my fault and that he isn't attracted to me anymore. I am somewhat uncomfortable being naked and don't always take my shirt off during quick sex. Is this a problem? what can I do?
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (29 November 2008):
 Hi,
He seems very anxious and that could be affecting his erection staying the course!
If you say you are trying all sorts of things to no avail then maybe he has erection problems he has to go to a doctor with it, it may well be something simple he won't know unless he asks!
I would also ask him to tell you what it is he would like you to be doing to arouse him as he says your not doing the things to arouse him so he really should be telling you your not a mind reader!
He will become frustrated not being able to keep an erection i would imagine is pretty awful for a guy and he might in time if left feel what's the point?
Before it even gets to that stage i would see someone though if he can't bring himself to see the doc then call one of these phone lines that deal with erection problems you can get over this and most of all be patient he will only become more frustrated if you are too.
For now be supportive to him and be very patient in time i am sure you both will have this issue sorted good luck!
Ginalolabridga
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