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writes: I love my boyfriend very much hes such a good man, and hes great to my daughter. I was In an accident 7 months ago and still not back to work, and hes stuck with me this whole time, and lately I have been in a funk, and have been taking it out on him. I dont mean to. What can I do to change this I dont want to lose him. Reply to this Question |
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 well maybe spending less time away from each other will help as when you see each other constantley it does get boaring of doing the same routine every day, but when you see each other less youll miss each other that much the last thing on your mind will be argueing instead youll be kissing and cudderling because of how much youve missed each other!but if you do choose to do that explain to him first why you are going to start seeing him less, and there is another option not a very good one. but when you know your going to flip at him then maybe biteing your tounge and saying im going in the other room or out side for a bit as i dont want to argue with you,ill be in when ive calmed down.
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reader, Toria +, writes (2 October 2006):
 You know your doing it so well you feel like your angry or about to kick off I would take some time out and go to another room or outside away from your boyfriend therefore not having him there to take it out on.
I'm sure he understands but still not his fault you are going through this and therefore you need to stop taking it out on him.
Good luck :o)
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reader, camille +, writes (2 October 2006):
 As you're aware you're doing it, that's a positive thing at least. There's no sure fire wire to stop, just ...... STOP! When you start doing it, stop. Count to ten, leave the room, whatever it takes. You're clearly frustrated by but it's not fair to take it out on someone who's not the reason. If you talk to him and tell him how you feel, he could help. Maybe you could have a code word and ask him to say it when you start picking on him. That way he's not taking it either and hopefully you'll stop yourself after a while.
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