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writes:My boyfriend is being distant. I am 20 and he is 21. We have been together for almost 2 years now. He use to always be a gentleman, caring, fun, loving etc. However, recently he has become a complete ass to me finding the simplest things to complain about between us causing huge arguments. He has also been very disrespectful and uncaring towards my feelings with this. I also realized that he does not listen to me when I express my feelings, he believes I am nagging. He has said to me he is going through family issues but I don't understand what is has to do with our relationship. I tried to talk to him about it but he does not want to say much. I also even tried to be distant towards him by cutting back on talking to him on the phone and seeing him to see id he would try to initiate conversations but he still does not want to talk much. Ive reach a point where I do not know what to do anymore. I love him so much! but I can only take so much HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice! It is greatly appreciated however, the family issues he is having is his father just lost his job and his mother has to work hard and pay the bills while he sits at home and does nothing. Also, my boyfriend and his brother have to work and help his mother pay the bills. With this they may have to downsize their home by April 2011. However, I have noticed that although he is helping to pay the bills, he is spending his money on foolish things such as a work out machine or high priced name brands.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 You don't mention what his family problems are but it sounds like they are very consuming. You would think that he would rely upon you as a sounding board.I think there are a few things you can do and it's up to you to decide when to apply them:1) Give him some space. It sounds like right now his focus is with his family. Try not to take it personally, but emotionally he is spread pretty thin. Make sure you let him know that you are there for him.2) Up your game. Take him out on a date. Do something you haven't done before. Make sure it is special.3) Finally, write your boyfriend a letter. Tell him how much you love / miss him. But keep it short and very sweet. No novels here. If you have burdens you wish to share, take it to your girlfriends, but don't burden him.Finally be patient. If you are lonesome, reconnect with your girlfriends and your family.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): give him som space...maybe these family issues will resolve and he'll get bak to normal soon. talk to him about hw u feel if things dont resolve.
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