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writes:My fiance can't stop looking at other girls. we have a great sex life and we are really happy but he cannot keep his eyes off of girls. especially high school ones. he's 22 and I'm 20 and most people think I look younger but he doesn't and these girls are like 13-16. what should I do?
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 March 2013):
 well that's just flat out creepy that he's looking at 13 year old girls at the age of 22. i'm sorry, but that's not really acceptable. and society agrees with that, as well, seeing as how it is illegal to actively pursue individuals of that age. it's called RAPE.
i don't really have much advice i can give you on this. i mean, i would be really bothered, as well. is he clearly checking them out in a sexual way? have you talked to him about how this makes you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): You're probably not going to like what I'm about to say, but I'm telling you for your own good.
You're already having problems with him looking at younger girls, and you're only 20. You're so young yourself, but it still makes you feel bad. So what do you think it will feel like when you're 40? I ask because your fiance's preference for younger girls isn't likely to change over the years. In fact, it could get worse. Are you prepared to deal with this possibility? If not, I suggest you walk. He may have other good qualities, but this will always be an issue. You could ask him about it, but most likely he will do one of 3 things: Deny it completely, deny the extent to which he does it, or stop doing it in front of you but continue behind your back. That doesn't sound like someone I would want to give my life to. You only live once as far as I know, and I would want to spend my life with someone who prefers ME in the looks department as well as in other ways. And while he may not ever cheat on you, he's going to be constantly fantasizing over teenage girls, and NOT you since you're not a teenager anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013):
From what you've posted . I gather that this looking is more like him eyeing up these girls, especially as it has alarmed you enough to write a post. This doesn't bare very well with me, and I can be quite an understanding person . Leering and sexual eyeing up younger children as that's what were talking about here, is not on.
Next time, draw his attention to it. And if it continues then I'd walk away. This for me, would be a deal breaker.
Take care sweetie x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 March 2013):
 when you say he's looking at 13-16 year old girls...
is it a glance or is he perving on them?
because if he's staring at them or drooling over them, that's not cool...
where are you when he's looking at these girls?
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