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writes:i recently posted a question about my exboyfriend. he broke up with me about a week ago, saying that he wasn't ready to be in a relationship right now, even though we'd been together for almost a year, but that he still loves me and wants us to be together again soon. this was all over text message because he wouldn't speak to me. and i still haven't spoken to him since then. it's been a week and a half- the longest we've ever gone without speaking.so basically, i don't know why but now i feel like he hates me. firstly, he wont talk to me ot even text me. also, i've seen him around recently and he knows i'm there but he wont even look me in the eye, let alone say anything. i feel so hated and i don't know what i've done. and the other day i saw him talking to his exgirlfriend and it looked like they were really good friends again (they stopped being friends because she didn't like the fact that he was with me). and what i don't get is that whilst they were together she cheated on him 4 or 5 times and he always told me that she was crazy and that he would be insane to ever be friends with or try to talk to her again. so why does he want to be friends with her now after she hurt him really bad? and why does he hate me after i did nothing? i don't deserve to be hated and i just need answers but i know he doesn't want anything to do with me and i don't want to keep calling and being the crazy ex girlfriend cause that's what this other girl did when we first got together and i remember how much he hated it. what's going on?
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reader, hefor129 +, writes (29 January 2010):
 well then dnt txt him hez nt worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): If I can help you by telling you I turn 40 in 6 months and just experienced something very similar the first time in my life. Do not call this guy, do not text him and thank your lucky stars it happened early on. I am. Guys like this are selfish and have no concern for anyone but themselves. They justify their behavior by telling themselves they are doing you a favor by not prolonging a relationship that wont work anyway. He knew from the beginning he would go back with his ex. I know it hurts but it will get better. I have never been broke up with and never spoke to again in my life and I probably could have gone my whole life without that experience. If it seems to good to be true, he says and does all the right things right away then it usually is too good to be true. Just put this away as a learning lesson and never look back on this aye hole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Hmm... let's see...the guy is a jerk. Move on!
He dropped you over text message because he's a coward and wants it to be as easy as possible for him. If he is interested in his ex-girlfriend then let him be. Who needs the idiot anyhow? Get on with your own life otherwise you will embarass yourself. Stop thinking so much about him.
Believe me, this is an opportunity to find someone better.
Guys love attention. In fact, they like being the centre of attention. Don't give him this satisfaction! It just makes you look desperate. Playing it cool is much better. He's already got a big head from his previous girlfriend chasing him, so if you do it again, he'll only ever have a relationship with himself!
Are this bloke's balls made of 24 carat gold or something? Come on girl, move on. You are far too important to waste your time on this moron.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): I'm sorry you feel this way, but I don't think this guy hates you. That's a very strong feeling to have, and why would he hate you? I think he probably feels awkward, which is why he is avoiding you.
It seems to me like he isn't interested in a relationship with you right now. Even though he said that he would like you to be together soon, he might have said that to try not to upset you. Or he might be trying to keep his options open, so that if things don't work out with his ex, he can go back to you. It sounds like he is probably trying to be with his ex again. I know he said that he would never want to be with her again, but his feelings may have changed.
I'm really sorry about this, it must be hard for you. I would advise just trying to move on from him. He might come back, then it would be up to you to decide whether you want to try again with him or not. But it sounds like he is moving on.
I hope it all works out well for you. x
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