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writes:I split up with my boyfriend on thursday because i looked on his phone and he had messages from another girl on there and now he has finished with me because of it. he has lots of girls as mates and im meet most of them i wish i never looked now then we would still be together havent been able to sleep properly or eat anything i feel so stupid please help?
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reader, XXpussycatXX +, writes (19 April 2007):
hey darling
i done exactly the same so in a way i know what you going through i was listening to my bf phone and he had a message through off a girl i dont know and it said something i didnt like when i later confronting and asked him who she was he finished with me without me explaining and i broke my heart he said he didnt mean it and he said that he just thinks i dont trust him and i didnt but he declared his love for me all you need to do is tell your boyfriend that you really sorry and that you promise it wont happen again i did this and a year and a half later we stilll together but it maybe the fact that he just wanted to find an excuse i hope not for your sake but please try and speak to him or write him a letter..hope it works out for you let me know and if you want anymore advice email me
good luck
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reader, nic85 +, writes (15 April 2007):
it sounds like he had something to hide, what a stupit reason to break up with you, it sound like he has been looking for a reason to break up with you or he wouldnt have done it over something so little and stupit. what ever you do dont blame yourself you should have anything to hid in a relationship, and if he didnt want you looking through his phone he shouldnt have left it lying around. the 1st few days will be hard but you'll feel better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): Hey
It sounds like your boyfriend was really quick to break up with you. Are you sure he was that committed to you, it doesn't seem like it. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise. You don't want to be with someone so temperamental and quick to reject you, you want a boyfriend who is committed, kind and understanding. Perhaps you shouldn't have gone through his phone but I think partners in relationships do this a lot and I don't think it is breaking up material. If I were your boyfriend I would have reassured you so that you didn't feel the need to go through my phone in the future, not get angry and split up with you. You should think about that. Would you break up with a boyfriend for looking in your phone?
Breakups are really horrible but once you're through the initial pain I think you might start feeling better for being rid of someone who ended things so easily with you. You're worth far, far more than one little mistake, aren't you? See it like this: He's lost out on a great girlfriend, you haven't lost out on a great boyfriend. :)
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reader, FighterNoLover  +, writes (15 April 2007):
 i think spliting up with you was a stupid reason
if he really didnt want you to see his phone that means he's hiding somthing from you...i mean you guys shouldnt have to hide anything from one another you should be able to look at his phone without having problems you shouldnt feel stupid...it was a stupid reason for him to split up with you just look at it this way he isnt worth it if he broke up with you cause of some message you happened to see
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): He`s obviously hiding something,so your better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): You need to relax a little and take things easy. First of all, you looked on his phone which made him feel like you don't trust him, and maybe you do have some insecurities, I don't know. The thing is, insecurities is normal in a relationship and his decision to end the relationship was rash.
The question that you need to be asking yourself is "why did he over-react?". Was it simply because he doesn't think you trust him, or was it because he has something to hide which make his very nervous when you look through his phone. Either way, if you think you need to get back together with this guy then you need to talk to him and see what you both want out of the relationship.
Explain to him your feelings and wait on his reply. Then decide where to go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): why did you look at his phone for ??? you need to ask your self that, do you trust him if so tell him that.
and how very sorry you were and it was a moment of maddness that will never happen again.
he more and likely just mad at you
but give him a couple of days space then ring him or send him a text, but you need to understand what you did was wrong if you asked he more and likely he would give you his phone. Most lads have females friends and remember if he wanted to be with someone else why would he be with you then (before this happen)
just give him a couple of days to chill and just say i know what i did was wrong and i do trust you it was just a moment of maddness that will never happen again i feel so stupid for doing it i can't sleep or eat i feel so bad couse i lost some thing so important to me can you please just forgive me start a fresh .......
thats all you can do but you have to understand if he doesn't what this any more i mean if he did it to you how would you feel
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