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anonymous
writes:My bofriend has taken intimate photos of me with my consent but I have just found out he has emailed them to another girl what shoud i do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Your letter is the reason I tell sooo many females--never, ever allow bf's to take intimate pictures of you. It's not like it used to be..we have the internet! (If a woman is going to do that with her lover, then ladies, protect your identity, at least ensure, your face is out of the photos) But see--what is going to happen if this relationship doesn't work out, he's now got free reign to do what he wants with those pics. There are many websites on the internet where angry ex bf's are posting pictures of their old gf's. Get your hands on those pics and destroy them--asap. And then dump him, fast. Because firstly, you trusted/loved him enough to 'allow' him to take those pictures. And look what he done here. He has knowingly invaded the domain and boundaries of your intimate relationship with him by sending these pics to others via the internet. How will you ever trust him again? It may be too late, but it's imperative you get those pictures back and that you make sure he deletes them off his computer. And make sure he doesn't have copies hidden away in files elsewhere on his computer. Or your photos can and possibly will make it's way across the internet for anyone to see. If this seems scary to you, then I suggest in the future, you tell any bf's you may have...you have a 'no photo' rule. He'll just have to see you in all your magnificent glory, without a camera in the room.
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reader, love-him +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Tell him how you feel, this is out of order, as he sent them without your consent.. I hope i helped, mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): I don't suppose you have any similar photo's of him that you could send to all your friends in a pisstaking kind of manner? If not, try to get some taken - and then dump him.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): How old are you? And you are putting up with this nonsense. That isnt nice what he has done. Get the photos back if you can and make sure there are no more copies. Be very wary about having photos taken in future. Personally i would tell him to get lost once i have the photos back.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Just wondering what were the pictures, because if they were "bad" then you really need to end it with him! He has violated your trust, and I don't think he is really comited to you if he is showing this other girl your pictures!
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (20 November 2007):
 That, in my opinion, is a serious violation of your trust. It is very inconsiderate of him to send your 'personal' pictures to people without your concent. Why he has e-mailed this girl, I would like to know, because that seems a little strange, and possibly something you should address.
You need to sit him down, and make it very clear to him that sending around pictures (which you were comfortable for him to take in the first place) without your concent, is something that he simply cannot do. Depending on how angry you are about what he has done, this may call for you to talk about how much trust there is between you both in your relationship.
Good luck.
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