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*inky449
writes:I have been with my bf for 9 months and we both love each other very much, but he tends to lose his erection when i go near him. or like halfway thru sex. but if i am playing with it, it stys hard. he says its not me and that it might be because he gets an erection as soon as he sees me. please help as i am feeling really insecure and unwanted. i cant help but think i am doing something wrong.why do guys lose their erection and can anything help? all tips welcome :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Me again. Yeah you should bring it up, but be discreet. Some guys get embarassed about the number of times they get themselves off each day. I don't think most girls know that a young guy needs that release several times a day or else he starts to feel edgy, unsettled, anxious, and aggressive (all symptoms of being horny). When a guy gets horny like that even Oprah looks good. Maybe he does not like the way he feels as his cum builds up and needs that release to feel grounded. It's completely natural and it diminshes with age. As long as you understand that you should be able to discuss it with him.
When I was in my teens and early twenties, I used to masturbate right before going on a date to help relieve the anxiety. I found that I was able to concentrate more on our conversation than her body. Remember that movie with Ben Stiller.. "Something about Mary"? There's truth to that!
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reader, pinky449 +, writes (24 August 2009):
pinky449 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah we are both in our twenties, so you think i should just ask him to stop masturbating as much?Of all the time we have been together, he has only gone all the way inside me once. so it proves that its not medical reasons or anything. i have no children and havent had that many sexual partners either.thank you so much for your reply by the way :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): If he loses his erection inside your vagina, it sounds like a sensitivity issue. You are in your 20's and I guess he is too? Unless you over used your vagina and stretched it out or had a few kids, I surmise that your vagina is still pretty tight. But, he loses his erection inside, but you say you can keep him hard with your hand. Again, probably because your hand has a tighter grip which is better for a less sensitive penis.
It sounds like he is masturbating too much. A guy in his twenties can usually cum 3-4 times a day. You may be hitting him when he is on his 4th time or possibly 5th time each day.
Ask him to ease up on the hand jobs and the sensitivity in his penis should return in a few days. Not only will he have more cum for you, he will have a more sensitive penis. That will keep him hard so he cums inside you instead of on you.
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