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writes:I've been with my amazing and live-in boyfriend for almost 4 years now, and just the other day I confronted him about his lack of patience with me. At times, he tends to speak to me in a snippy tone of voice that makes me feel like he can't stand to be around me. He denies every last bit of it, and says it's a perception problem on my part... that I'm just taking everything the wrong way (mostly bc I'm not working, so he thinks I'm spending my over-abundance of spare time coming up with things to fight about!) If it was my perception, then how is it that I can differentiate between times when he snaps at me and times when he treats me like a goddess? Also, other people see it, but no one will confront him bc they feel it's wrong to get involved. We'd be just fine if I could get him to see what he's doing to me. Nothing is getting resolved as long as he continues to put all the blame on me. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, war37  +, writes (13 September 2007):
Hi He cant see it as he doesnt want to and what ever you say and do isnt going to change that?You need to accept this is part of him or move on.You could also do things that annoy him you dont realise,self annalise yourself and look at yourself through his eyes,If you love him lots then maybe just ignore this and be happy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I do that to my b.f. but I can see the way I am acting. If he can't see it, I don't know how you can solve the problem. Maybe some couples counseling, but I don't know if he'd be willing to participate if he won't even admit he's being snippy. Maybe if you got a job, he'd stop being so snippy. Perhaps he needs some alone time.
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