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writes: hi i am a single mom since the breakup with the kids dad i found someone i like we have gone out a year.well he has a son and he goes back and forth between me and his son mom. he leaves me then comes back in a week or 2. well he tells me me and him are just friends then turns around and says i miss you i am in love with you and different stuff do i forget him altoghether or stay his friend Reply to this Question
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reader, Hag +, writes (17 January 2007):
First of all you are questioning wether you should stay. Your instincts are telling you it isn't working, but you've given him control over wether you two are or aren't together. It's time to take the initiative and tell him you will not put up with this any more. Be sure he knows you value yourself enough to stick to your guns. If you show any sign of weakness here he will take full advantage and I assure you this yo-yo-ing he is doing to both you and the ex will only get worse. If a man loves you and only you (which is what you deserve) he will not be so undecisive. At this time he is only taking advantage of the fact that you and the ex are 'willing' to share. Once you can admit this to yourself you may find yourself taking full action. Good luck.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I think you owe it to yourself and your kids to be in a happy, stable relationship and I don't think this guy can offer you that when he doesn't know what he wants himself. Obviously his son will always be number one. You know from the way you feel about your own kids that this is true but you should be the number 2 in his life, not his son's mother if their relationship is really over. Sounds like he's hedging his bets. It has to be your decision but it doesn't sound like he has much respect for you and you deserve better.
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