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writes:well i have been with my boy friend for eight months and i had gotten pregnate and he was happy, but at around 5 months into our relationship he got arrested and it was my fault but hard to explain. he forgave me and then about a month later i had found out the baby had died in me i was 6 months along i had to get the baby removed and now some of the guys in jail said i probley lied to him about ever being pregnate well the clinic never sent me any paper work they said the would mail it to me but they didnt and when i went back to the clinic they were no longer there ive no numbers and have no way to show him proff. i love him but he is so mad at me that he wont even talk to me. i dont want this to ruin our relationship i dont know what to do please help me. ive tired writting and but he wont write back. i need a way to make him believe me and not those other guys what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Wow where to even start....
Firstly, dump him. He's in jail (you say this is your fault, but I find it extremely hard to believe that he is totally innocent in all of this... people don't go to jail for nothing. Evidence is needed)
Secondly, if he's believing some random people in jail over his partner, then he's obviously got no trust or respect for you. You've been through something awful, losing a baby, but instead of supporting you he chooses to side with a group of men who have NEVER EVEN MET YOU and know nothing about the pregnancy.
So what if you have no documents to show you were pregnant? In a good relationship you don't have to prove everything you say with paperwork. If he wont trust you on this, how many things in the future will he accuse you of lying about? Do you really want to be with a man who treats you as a liar all the time.
It seems very odd to me that he doesn't want to talk to you about this. It's as if he was just looking for an excuse to get mad at you.Believe me, you do not need this drama in your life.
Get out while you still can. He isn't talking to you at the moment- use this opportunity to break things off. You're no longer carrying his child so there is nothing to hold you to him.
You say you don't want this to ruin your relationship but it's already ruined. He doesn't trust you or care about you, he's sulking and being totally unreasonable, he won't listen to you and he's in jail. Not what you need from a relationship.
Repeat after me: I AM WORTH MORE THAN THIS.
Do yourself a favour, stop writing to him.Just walk away.
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reader, creamepie +, writes (22 March 2007):
This sounds fishy to me were you really pregnant or did you have an abortion because if you have any procedure they give you papers to show you how to care or maybe a bill . for yourself after the procedure and in you case you would have had to go to the hospital for an in house procedure so come again or try again know you know why he's angry learn something for this and stop lying
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reader, creamepie +, writes (22 March 2007):
This sounds fishy to me were you really pregnant or did you have an abortion because if you have any procedure they give you papers to show you how to care or maybe a bill . for yourself after the procedure and in you case you would have had to go to the hospital for an in house procedure so come again or try again know you know why he's angry learn something for this and stop lying
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