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*oisonViper
writes:Me and my best friend are amazingly close, well we are pretty much in love, we are always hugging and holding hands and he has even told me he loves me, i know he means it, and i know i love him too, but the thing that makes me angry is that he has another friend who's a girl and when he's around her he does this stuff too, well okay i admit he does treat me alot more tenderly, but still it really annoys me when shes around and he consontraits on her. or when he goes downtown with her instead of me. I dont want to hate her, i just get so jealous, Is there anyway i can tell him to stop? and choose between us? Without sounding like a bit of a selfish bitch?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): i sorta know what u feel. im in love with my best friend, but she doesnt know it. when she goes out and have fun with her other male friends, it kills me, but i could never say anything. Im in position to give u professional advice, but from my point of view.... i say first talk with him and know where u 2 stand in your relationship. Then tell him of your jealousy. If i was him and a girl i truly cared and loved for told me that, i definitely would not want to do anything to make her feel that way. He needs a mild reality check.
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reader, polarkite  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 Why would you want to stop your friend from having fun? Don't you love him? What kind of relationship do you guys have, is he your best friend, your boy friend, are you in an open relationship? You guys are really young. I'd suggest taking it easy and remaining free to do whatever you want!If you guys are simply best friends you should love the fact that your friend has fun with other people, even girls.If you let him hang out with other girls, and he still loves you the most, it will just make your love grow stronger. At your age, I don't think it's healthy to be too isolated. One thing you *could* do, if you are strong enough, is ask to come along on one of your friend's "dates." If he doesn't let you come along, then that's a bad sign, since it means that something romantic is developing with this other girl that he doesn't want to share with you. Otherwise, it could just mean he's emotionally unavailable to you when he's with this girl.If he doesn't care that you come along or things it's funny and allows you to, then it could make your relationship even stronger! It might even be fun to hang out with the two of them. There's no reason to hate this girl, just don't take her too seriously! Remember, that deep down your friend loves you more, so even if he's having fun with this other girl, it doesn't matter. If you play it right, it will make your friend love you even more.
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reader, PoisonViper +, writes (3 February 2008):
PoisonViper is verified as being by the original poster of the questionby downtown i ment shopping lmao, not anything sexual.
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