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writes:I have a bit of a tricky situation going on here. My boyfriend and I have a jealous relationship, and he often breaks into my email or my myspace. I've made this perfectly clear that it is not acceptable, but recently he's been distant and I found myself breaking my own rules and cracking into his email and myspace accounts and found a few noteworthy items. An ex, who he said he doesn't talk to anymore, wrote him an email about a month ago kind of hinting that she wanted to move back and get back together with him. I found no reply, but saw that he forwarded the email to his work email address which I have no access to. He also had several "harmless" emails from another ex he told me he was not speaking to. This seems shady to me, but I'm afraid to bring it up because I was snooping. Even though he's snooped on me dozens of times I don't feel that this is justified. I don't know how long I can hold all of this inside, please help.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 October 2007):
Ain't technology great? Ask him about it. Don't give him any details that would indicate where you got the info.
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reader, Gilly609  +, writes (15 October 2007):
He's no good for you. He's doing you wrong, and it's driving you crazy... It's hard, but let him go. He obviously doesnt want you and you deserve much better
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): Ask him outright, just what the hell is going on!! He snooped on you and now you have done it to him, not a good situation to get yourself in. A good relationship has to be based on trust, if you havent got that then it is no good. You need to get this sorted or you wont be able to carry on with this relationship. I think you two arent really meant for each other but i could be wrong. Talk to him and sort it out.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): That sounds very suspicious to me.
Perhaps the reason he is so jealous of you and sneaks in your accounts is because he feels paranoid about his own behavior. He thinks that because he is being shady you must be being shady as well. He has double standards for your conduct.
Hate to say it but it doesn't sound good.
Ask him if he is talking to any of his exes anymore, try to do it casually. Say something like "my friend Jane has a really annoying ex who is trying to talk to her all the time... shes really getting on my nerves whining about it so much...have you ever dealt with this? Any exes try to contact you?" (ok thats not a very good script but you get the idea).
If he lies BOLD FACED to you, then you cannot trust him and he's probably hiding something that he doesn't want you to know.
Maybe you could email the exes anonymously and ask them questions... that is a bit extreme but you could give it a go.
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