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writes:my friend is havGng a huge problem... shes 16 and pregnant.. i love her (as a friend) and id stay beside her and help her through the fiery gates of hellshes my best friend and id do anything for her but i dont know what to do to help her... please give me advice not for me but for her cause shes really scared... please and thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): I think adoption is the most giving self-less thing to do. After having my own baby, at a mature 35, I can not imagine having an abortion (after being pregnant and feeling her grow) and yet I also can not imagine having a baby at age 16. Unless her mother and father are very supportive, and willing to be the primary caretakers while your friend finishes school, I think it will be quite overwhelming if she tries to raise it on her own. The daily task of caring for an infant/baby takes a HUGE amount of energy, time, love and patience. I think it would be a huge sacrifice if she had to drop out of school to be a mother. So many people want children and are infertile (I thought I was actually)... they have alot of love to give and could provide the child with a family. Personally I think it's best for both the child and your friend. But, she should explore all options and trust her judgement.
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reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (17 July 2008):
 Your friend is so fortunate to have a friend like you to be there to help her and to support her.
She needs to make her own decision as to what she wants to do about the pregnancy;
She has 3 choices:
Abortion; Adoption; or raise the child;
Do not influence her;
Allow her to make the choice;
and be there for her because whatever she decide; she will need the help and support of a good understanding friend; somebody that will be non judgemental.
Be strong for your friend; if she is not sure what to do advise her to speak to her parents; if she is to scared; maybe she can speak to a guidance councelor at school or college; or encourage her to speak to a doctor who can refer her to a councelor who can assist her with this decision.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): First of allDON'T DO ABORTION!its wrong! its killing life!Well its up to her if she's gonna marry the father. But there was never a law that you MUST marry the pregnant girl.here is what you do.Upon the birth of the child. Support the child feed him and such. until he grows, I'm sure that the mother and the child will be close and will be able to understand each other because of the age gap. So tell her that it will be alright. One problem is.. Telling her parents.
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reader, alwaysndforever +, writes (16 July 2008):
first she needs to decide if she wants to keep it or get an abortion and do some research on that and then talk to her about it but be sensitive because it is an emotional topic for many. then she should see a doctor. (she needs to decide that first because after too many weeks she will not beable to get one..an abortion that is) the best thing you can do is not get a lot of people involved doctors and parents or fine but people in school with just ruin her life with the comments they will make. before telling her parents she needs to talk to the father of her baby and hopefully he will stay with her through it all. support her and let her cry to you, make sure ur her escape when she falls into reality. but....make sure she sees a doctor becuase she now is incharge of another persons life and needs to learn how to take care of both her self and the baby.
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reader, gabberjackranch +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I think you are doing exactly what you need to be doing, and that is standing by her. Just be open to her as all of these changes go on. She may want to keep the baby, or perhaps she wants to give it away for adoption. Being there for her to talk to is the best thing. You are a very good friend, and a wonderful person...Your friend is very blessed to have you in her life.
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reader, PsyCookie + ♥, writes (16 July 2008):
 The best thing you can do to help her is to stay by her side.
Yes, this sounds like such a simple answer, but it's the best thing you can do for her. Stay for when she panics at anything. Stay if any problems happen to her and be a supporting rock. Stay when she has mood swings and her personality changes. Stay with her when her baby comes to the world. Stay with her when she has to raise the baby.
You may be just as scared as her. You fear for her safety and the safety of her baby, but really like I said, the best thing you can do is stay with her.
Good luck and I hope your friend will be better. I hope friends were like you and not immature backstabing girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): hi dear, yoi said she is your best friend and you will do anything for her.. i tell you what is the best thing you can do for her, is to seat down with her and speak openly, listen to what she wanna say but most of all help her to have a courage to speak this huge problem to the person who is the very first person who will help her most, and that is her MOTHER"... good luck.....
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