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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello.I am beginning to hate my mum and stepdad, but only about one thing. We moved from my home town last year and I've hated life since then. Now we've moved my emotions are everywhere and I think I need counceling.The real problem is that I would like to go see my old friends at weekends and they don't let me. They said I can only go and see them in school holidays, but then they still decide how many days I go and see them for and when! They don't understand what it's like not seeing your friends you used to see every day for only like a few days every two months or whatever! They don't listen to me when I try and talk about it. My mum just gets all mad and starts shouting at me and says that "that's how it's going to be" and "what I say goes". She doesn't listen to what I have to say. What can I say to her to make her understand and let me see my mates more??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I first want to tell you that it is a good thing that this is the only hate your parents. Cause we both know there are much worse things parents could do which would be awful to go through.
I understand that you miss your friends. It is a horrible and lonely feeling and sometimes does make us angry. I think you must realise that your parents didn't take you away from your friends on purpose. If they moved there would have been a very good reason. So perhaps too, they do understand that this has effected you, and when you get upset it makes them feel bad too. Maybe there are some reasons why mum won't let you see tham more? Is it hard to do financially? See there is alway a good reason, not just because we want to be mean. Can your friends come to you? Maybe you could make an arrangement like that. Mum probably wants you to make new friends so you are happier. Breaking into a new group of friends is scarey, but sometimes can surprise us with lots of new opportunities. So don't dismiss finding new friendships, think about that mum and dad are not just trying to make you lonely, there are reasons, but ask why and what the reasons are. Calmly and maturally. Say to your mum your sad and lonely and this is why you want so badly to keep in touch with your old mates. Maybe you could tell her in a letter, so she understands how you are feeling?
Some of those things might help. But try not to be stubbon about new things around you. Just because you make new friends doesn't mean your disloyal or regetting your old ones.
Hope this helps.
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reader, michellesays +, writes (19 March 2008):
its normal actually to start resenting your parents round about this age. our hormones are all over the place and as the saying goes we always take it out on the ones closest to us. shame that is the truth what your mum says what she says goes nothing can really be done about it, althouogh it is hard to try to make new friends at this agei'm sure you will soon you sound very sensible for your age and will probably adjust to your new area quicker than you think.
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