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*il-angel182
writes:well i got out of a relationship 2 months ago and i've been asked out by this guy who i've been talkin to recently met him through a friend, i want to go out with him but dont know how my mum will react to this, she didnt like my ex cause he was older(21)and lived 300miles away but this time the guy lives only 20mins away and is only 18. how do i tell her that i want to go out with him? i've agreed to meet him on friday to go to the cinema and then dinner but my mum is going on holiday for a week so do i go and met him and see if i like him then tell her or tell her right now? plus my mum is very over protective and this why am scared to ask her incase she says no
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (3 February 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks scythe for your advice i think am going to follow it and go meet him and see how things go then when she comes back i will tell her.
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reader, scythe  + ♥, writes (3 February 2008):
 Hey honey,
I just went through something very similar, you can read my question and the responses here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-met-this-great-guy-but-i.html
I think you can meet him first without telling your Mom, but if you are going to see him again, you should tell her. She will be happier that you told her rather than go behind her back. It's easier just to come out and say "I'm going on a date with this guy" and then take it from there. Make sure you don't get angry or upset when talking to her about him. Just be mature and answer her questions and explain why you want to see him. She should be happy with that.
Maybe wait until she comes home from Spain to tell her. Otherwise it might make her worry too much and spoil her holiday.
And make sure you enjoy yourself! Dating isn't meant to be a hassle, its meant to be fun :)
Take care
xox
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (2 February 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice and think i will go meet him, in a popular place of course, and see how things go then talk to my mum. Should I wait till she gets back from Spain to tell her or tell her while she's there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): nah make sure you like him first before you talk to your mumwho's life is it anywaydont live your life through your mums decisions, do your own thingxx
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (2 February 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice and i think am going to follow it, the only thing is i know my mum likes me to be honest with her and if i then said i had been seeing someone i think it would make her angry at me for not telling her and not being honest and how would i go about telling her that i had been seeing someone??
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Parents are mainly concirned when we meet someone and instantly call them "my boyfriend". Meet the guy first, see if you like him. If you do, see him some more, get to know him. When you're sure you could be an item, tell your mum you've met a really nice guy, who is fun and interesting to be with!
Her main concirn will be that you don't rush into bed with him and that you don't get hurt. Your ex was defenate hurt theat, because of the distance.
If she sees you taking things slowly and maturely, she'll be fine!
Good luck!
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