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writes:My daughter's dad and I have been having problems. We've been through some crazy situations. We are getting ready to have a second child together(two kids from his first marriage which totals to four kids). We are not married, we use to live together but I left him because he have cheated on me. What's the hard part is that he'll do it again. He's finally helped out, a little. I was the main bread winner taking care of all five of us. He was on state assistance with no help from his first two kids mother. She have been from job to job. She also failed to tell him that she was married, his son knew.He just found out his teenage son,17 year old, is going to be a father. His son is a great sport scholar with college recruiters looking at him. Now, all that is about to change. I understand he's going through a hard time but there are times when I need him. He has full custody of his two kids but their mother is complaining about issues, in which I understand why, but where is she to help out? She's in VA and he's in CA. In what right mind of a mother would give up custody of her children? She complains but doesn't help out on any finances or any type of support. She owes over $30k in child support. She haven't seen her kids in a few years. I haven't heard from him in the past few days. He expects me to call him. I am getting tired of this. I am getting ready to cut him off. Any suggestions on how to go about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): You are welcome any time; hope things work out well for you;
We are here if you need any more advice or feel like talking.
Sometimes it is good to just get an opinion from an outsider; However do keep us posted.
Best wishes, lots of hugs and SMILES
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response. I really do appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): Dear Poster
You have to do what is right and best for you and your daughter; and PLEASE DO NOT fall pregnant with a second child at this stage;not whilst your life is in such chaos;
I suggest you know what you have to do;but you are looking for confirmation from us;
Well, I do believe you need to leave this guy; let him sort out his own life and get his children and ex sorted out; it is not your duty to support them; and to live with the FEAR that he will CHEAT on you again; NO, no, it sounds as if you are been used;
I think it is time you TAKE STOCK; YOU and your daughter DESERVE better;
You surely don't wnat her to grow up thinking this is right and normal;
Start a new life for yourself and your daughter.
You DESERVE to find happiness and love; somebody to share life with; the good and the bad; not to just take care of the responsibilities and pay the bills.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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