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writes: My boyfriend of eight months recently left for the Air Force. I'm having a very hard time with it, as you could imagine. We spent nearly every day together, and we love each other very much. My life just feels so empty without him. I am only 18, but both mine and his parents can see how much we love each other and have said it would be alright for us to get married after a while. For right now, though, I have to wait. It is so hard to be without him. I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice to help me get through this time without him. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much for your support and encouragement. It seems like my family is all ready to be there for me at first but after a couple of days they just go back to normal life and treat me as though things are normal. But it's not normal, and I wish they would understand that I'm in pain. It's nice to see that there are people out there who know exactly what I'm going through and recognize that the pain isn't going to go away after just a couple of days. Thanks again guys.
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (15 April 2006):
 I know EXACTYLY what you are going through. A year ago yesterday my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years left for the Air Force (we also spend every day together). It was so hard being without him, I was 20 at the time. The only advice I can give you is to try and keep yourself busy... I had 5 college courses I was taking so it sort of helped me to keep my mind off of it. I made sure to write him everyday, even if it was something stupid and short, that way he knew that I thought of him everyday. Just think of it... the only form of happiness he will have while there is reading your letters. He said that when they did mail call he always got the most letters! I also sent him a collage of pictures of me that I made during his 4th week away... he said nothing could have made him more happy then to open a letter and find the pics of me since he had been so busy he started to forget my face.
He got to call me for about 2 min. one day and he was in the middle of his sentence when they cut the phone off, then about 5 days later I got a letter in the mail and he wrote "I don’t know if you heard me on the phone but we should get married. What do you think?" Well long story short we got married last July.
Just like sho wrote 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' the next time you see him you will never feel more loved by him than at that point! Just make sure that however long you are in a long distance relationship that you communicate as much as possible. It was extremely hard for me and my man to have a long distance relationship because it seems that we can not stop arguing! No matter how hard being apart may get, just make sure that you stick with it because it will be much better when you are together again! I am from Texas and since my husband got out of tech school in October we have lived in Nebraska where he is stationed.
I hope everything works out for you... I know how hard it is especially if the only people you have to talk to are people who don't know exactly how you are feeling! If you ever feel like you need to talk to someone then feel free to send me a personal message, I would be glad to help!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Write to him daily, he may not be able to reply daily but that does not mean he would`nt if he could.
Ring him as much as possible and believe me when he comes home on leave you will have missed each other so much that it will be a fantastic reunion.
Make sure you keep seeing your friends as they will help ease this painful time, and get out and about,. dont stay at home pinning away.
Each time he goes away it will get easier.
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reader, sho +, writes (15 April 2006):
Hey! I understand how you feel. My boyfriend went to the army, and I thought I'd die. But, no worries.. the phrase that kept me going was 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'. And how true that was!
When he came back.. I was so happy! I had also planned for some suprises for him. So, when he returned, he had a good time!
Also, while planning for the suprises, I focused more on what would make him happy, and the thought of making him happy made the absence easier to bear..
Hope this helps you!!
Its great that u 2 have such a bright future ahead! Good Luck!
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reader, Highland Help +, writes (15 April 2006):
 It is very difficult being in a relationship when you are both apart and so much in love. But it is your love for each other that will keep you together and your relationship can flourish even when apart. Try to communicate as much as possible, e-mail makes this so easy nowadays but try and send the occasional real letter or nice card as well. You will also have something that other couples do not have and that is the great feeling of being back together after time apart and the excitement that brings every time. So if you are both really in love it will work and once you are sure it feels right you may want to take the next step in a year or so and get engaged and finally married, you could always go away with him in the airforce them on married status - Good Luck.
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