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writes: Hello all, I would love some new perspectives on my situation. I have been seeing a guy for a few months now, probably around once a week. He both have busy lives and rarely speak in between meeting each other. We both really enjoy each others company and for me, he ticks the majority of the boxes. I obviously would like to see more of him and have a relationship with him but I'm not sure if I'm chasing after a lost cause. I have done the keeping the distance and waiting for him to come to me and also made it clear i would love to see more of him, but neither has really worked. Am I on to a lost cause and should walk away or is there something i could do to make it work? Thanks everyone!! x Reply to this Question
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reader, eye contact +, writes (15 April 2006):
 dear friend love is never a fixed given,not something one can take for granted.It always takes two.Both people need to try,contribute and compromise.we all have different ways of expressing feelings and doing things for others but we can never expect from others to take initiative all the time and do all the running.i think you should have an open,honest discussion about it and tell him how you feel and why.at the end of the day you will only say what you have to say because you care and you want to spend more time together and if thats not what he wants ,then you should probably look for an exit. before you get more attached and invest more feelings and energy in this relationship.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Try one last time to talk to him about this as it is obviously bothering you a lot.
Tell him you want to see more of him, even if it is initially just another night a week, (no one is that busy)
Tell him you are lonely
Tell him he needs to ring you more.
Tell him you want a romantic weekend away with him.
Tell him you want a proper relationship or no relationship at all.
Be prepared to win or loose but this state of limbo cannot continue.
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