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*heeryel
writes:I'm 16 years old and I'm currently in an online relationship with a guy.He's from Canada,while I'm from Malaysia.I know,it really is far right?He's 17.Next year,he'll be going to college.We've been together for about 6 months now.We actually met in an online game,games are what we both enjoy.He calls almost everyday and we meet and play online too.Though we are still kinda young to be talking bout sex and stuff,during our second month together we started talking about it together.And we started having phone sex..I sent him my naked pictures,I believe he won't spread it,but I am still kinda guilty about it.Also during around the fifth month,we started masturbating on cam together.But we stopped it eventually because I felt guilty about it.Few weeks ago,I went on a trip. After I came back,we had a huge fight.He said he didn't love me as much as he did before and he thinks that meeting me online sometimes felt like a chore.He suggested to break up,and to be honest I really dealt with it pretty badly.But in the end I convinced him to give us another chance.We were almost back to normal after a week.What I thought was I never gave him enough space,so I eased back on the online time we had together.He's a really great guy,he likes to help people.I really like him.But the distance is really a problem. Neither our parents are that supportive of us being together. But they still let us be together online/phonecalls.They don't expect us to actually meet. I do really want to meet him and he does too,but neither of us has the money to do that.Could we really meet online in the future?And also,we've been having some of those silences.Neither of us know what to talk about.Suggestions about what to do about that too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): It seems a very long way, and I think you should protect yourself from someone doing this sex stuff over the webcam. How do you know there aren't others watching it?
It's very hard to maintain a long distance relationship and this is so far. Try and find someone closer to home who you can meet up with and get to know properly.
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reader, cheeryel +, writes (14 December 2010):
cheeryel is verified as being by the original poster of the question @All
You're right when I wouldn't listen,but we do really like each other,we're dependant on each other emotionally. Realisticly it might not work,but there is still hope..
Next summer he might come to malaysia,just needs his parent's consent.
thanks for all your advices though..and yea,i would stop sending pics of me to him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 A 16 y.o. girl in Malaysia and a 17 y.o. boy in Canada , which don't have much in common and little to talk about except their sexual curiosity.
I could tell you : forget it. It's never gonna happen.
But you would not listen anyway.
So I'll tell you : go ahead, continue this "relationship " ( without the sexy pics ! Very imprudent ! ).It will fizzle soon and naturally, as soon as you or him or both will meet a flesh -and- bones attractive someone, much closer to where you live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Emotions aside and logically I look at this situation miss and it just doesnt make sense at all, whatsoever. The feelings are perhaps there but genuine feelings are in question i e do you just like him cause you share a common interest? what is it specifically about his personality and his philosophies and takes on life that you enjoy?...Even if you were able to answer that fully...the reasoning behind the relationship is, with respect, silly. I feel because of the distance, this whole relationship is pointless for you and if you cut things off now, it will be easier rather than waiting. Youre both still in school, you dont have money, no one has made any decision about how to close the distance and neither is even in the position to do so because of age. Things just dont add up here. Good luck :)
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reader, cheeryel +, writes (14 December 2010):
cheeryel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAdd on: I also feel really bad bout myself sometimes,I'm overweight but he still says I'm sexy and pretty and stuff. Sometimes I feel like I'm not enough for him and that he won't like me when he sees me. :(
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