Met this great guy and things great when im with him, but I still think about the ex and how I wanted it to be! How can I move on and stop hurting ?

Hello all,I'm a 24 years old female and I've posted before.My situation is that a few months ago my boyfriend who's 17 years older than I am broke up with me because he thinks that the age difference would be a problem.I loved him with all of my heart but I was given advice that I should let go and try to move on with my life.It seemed impossible and it still does but I have made all efforts to try to do so.There are many times (majority of the time) when I stumble anf fall flat but I get up,dust myself off and try again.Many times I think of him and miss him dearly and cry,then I wipe my tears and try again.When I find myself starting to think of him I try very hard to wipe it out of my mind,then try to continue with my day.It's not easy at all,cause I still miss and love him.I's been about 3 months since I last saw him.Anyway,about 7 weeks ago I met another guy.This guy is someone who I knew before but all we ever said was hi and bye.He was actually the same guy who gave me my ex-boyfriend's number to give him a call on the request of my ex-boyfriend.Anyhow,we met somewhere again about 7 weeks ago and I updated him on things,telling him that my ex had broken up with me but that we still talked and saw each other etc.He was very shocked over hearing that thats how things turned out.Since I was going through a rough time and spent most of my free time at home,one day he was going to pick up a pair of sun-shades and asked me if I wanted to go along just to get out of the house,so I accepted and since then we have been hanging out.He takes me almost everywhere with him,to work(he's a personal support worker so at client's home with him),to the movies,a bite to eat,his parents house to sit and chat with his family,to friend's houses,or just for a drive etc.He never once pushed himself unto me or anything like that and I felt very comfortable around him so much that I always wanted to be around him now.It got to the point where I started having feelings for him but felt bad about it since him and my ex both know each other(they talk about 0nce or twice a year).But,lately as I spend more time with him I no longer feel bad about liking him since he's a wonderful person and I feel happy around him.I see it as my ex had his chance and he chose to walk away from it and told me to move on so if this guy is the once then so be it.What I like about this guy is that he's very caring and considerate,he writes me poems,started teaching me to play the guitar,opens doors for me,hugs me,sings to me(which makes me laugh),spends time with me,listens and offers suggestions and comfort,took me to Niagara falls,go on walks with me in the park/trails.He finds time to do the things that really matter in life,which I love.My problem is that even while I'm with him I still think of my ex and still miss him,and it still hurts thinking that We'll never have a life together like I always wanted and that he'll belong to another,it hurts me so much still and I try and try to banish all my feelings for him but it's so very hard that I get frustrated and angry,even with my new friend.I havent talked to my ex in 3 months and I havent made any effort to try to contact him neither did he to me.Please advise me as to what next I can to to get over him and move on with my life so that I can be happy once again and not hurting.Thank you all in advance,much appreciated........Nubian

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