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writes:A few months ago I met this really nice girl on my course. We got chatting and I asked her if she'd like to go for lunch one day. She agreed and we had a great chat, got to know about each other and she even mentioned that I should go visit her in the summer. So following lunch I asked for her number so we could arrange another lunch. We met for lunch again and once again had a good time together. We never saw each other for a few weeks due to deadlines for coursework etc. I called her a couple of times to ask if she'd like to meet up for coffee but she never answered and never replied to my messages so I thought she was no longer interested.Later, I got in touch with her online and she suggested that we should organise dinner one night. I said that would be great so in the next week or so I shall organise that when she returns. I would like to date this girl however, her mixed signals are confusing me. Why would she not reply to my calls/messages? (perhaps she was busy) but I got the impression that she's not interested.I'll see her in person next week so should I ask her if she's still up for dinner and if I could take her out for a few drinks afterwards? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I guess until you see her in person, and ask her out properly, you won't know. Could be she is playing it cool, who knows! Just give it a go if you're interested. Good luck.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Girls always find time to return calls for men they're interested in. They will make time, and they won't forget,no matter how busy they are. I wouldn't get your hopes up.
That said, it can't hurt to try one more time. Call up (or meet up in person) with a definite time and location planned, tell her (don't ask) where it's going to be and when. Tell her to wear something nice. If she turns you down without offering an alternative time, she's definitely not interested. If she agrees, but then flakes, she's not interested and not worth the effort, either.
If it works out, great, chalk up the first couple of weeks to her own uncertainty.
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